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sunshine23


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Of all the things I did for myself, I think taking the plunge and moving (although very expensive) was the best thing I have done for myself in my situation. I did not have to wonder if he drank, where is he, is he going to make a scene in front of the kids, .... It was not all rosy. The fear I had of him being very mad, him falling into a bigger drunkenness and him getting into depression all came true. But I was able to detach much better being away. AH is doing much better now. I chose to be supportive but detach too. To know that it is between him and God while my recovery is between me and God. I have indeed grown through this experience though painfully. Really thankful for this site or I may never be able to survive these months. Keep coming back. It works!



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grateful2be


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aww



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Dear Sunshine Thank you for the update. I know it is not easy but your courage, serenity and wisdom, shine through in this share. I am proud to be sharing the journey

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Debilyn


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U are helping many others by sharing  your journey. thank you! I am so happy you got kids away from that. I cannot help but be so protective of them. I saw how an A parent can destroy kids when I was blessed to teach for so many years and raised a lot of my sons friends.

You sound good. hugs



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((((Sunshine)))) how you're doing it is how it works.  It is how it is supposed to work as we find that our own individual lives are our own individual responsibility.  I got distracted with that myself with taking on the lives of others when I ought not had to.  It was my choice and I had to learn I made bad ones for the outcomes I was looking for.  One better choice?...get in and stay in the Al-Anon Family Groups...this is what was behind door #1.   Keep coming back cause this works when you work it.  (((hugs))) smile



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Thanks for your post, its so true, when you work it, it works.x

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