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Breakingfree


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So my new boyfriend of 4 months is a carrier of HPV from his cheating ex-wife and now I have to have a procedure, because of this. I am a bit scared and pissed and well just going through the motions. I am not mad at the bf, because he didn't know or purposely pass this onto me. It seems you can't ever stop having dysfunctional people ripple your life, but you can always manage your own reactions and words. So I am trying to dig down into my program and just accept this and flow with what is to come. I need some prayers and ESH please. Sending you all love and support on your journey's!



-- Edited by Breakingfree on Saturday 9th of August 2014 12:47:07 PM

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Prayers for you Breakingfree. You're right. You can only manage your own reactions. Smart you.

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Prayers for you! My sister has HPV from her cheating husband (he cheated on her with the office skank among many others) and just had to have a procedure done 2 weeks ago. Good for you, for taking care of you and for working your program with this relationship, too!

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I'm sorry, BF. This was certainly not news you wanted to hear or something you wanted to experience. Sending you what you always send us: encouragement, love and support.

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I am sure he feels awful. We are human and I hope you can do your best to forgive his part in this. From what i know of it, our own bodies can fight against it and most do not have it beyond two years.

This is a dangerous world. I made my husband get tested for everything before i would marry him and well uno.

People still get AIDS and other stds. I had too many people die from Aids that I loved to take any chances.

You are smart to get right on this and I am sure you as a health care person know to find  an excellent doc to do this! The best people to ask are nurses!!!

Hugs hon.



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I am so sorry for this new problem and worry.  Prayers, sweetie.



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Positive thoughts and prayers BF I admire your courage and wisdom.



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I am so sorry, Breakingfree. I am praying for you. You are so right. Dysfunctional ripples seem to affect us no matter how hard we try to detach from and avoid other peoples' problems.

 



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you are taking care of yourself in the best way you can. that is admirable. sending love...

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Im sorry bf, I dont know much about hpv, only that young girls are vaccinated here now. I hope its  straightforward treatment and im glad you have taken it so well.x



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((((BF)))))

your strength will get you through.  Good for you for taking care of yourself and you know your HP is watching over you

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Hugs BF,

You are taking care of YOU and that's important. :)

Sending love and support S :)

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Sending you prayers for wellness and healing.  TT



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Hugs. Take care of yourself and good luck. Be kind to yourself during this. Heal quickly.

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Sending prayers and support that you will get though this setback. You have done so much good in your life I pray for your happiness to continue.

((( hugs )))

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I remember when...Hearing it from someone else is heartbreaking.  I made the choice in spite of awareness and then....it was one me...literally.  I thought and good thought and talked a good talk...it was my walk...my "doing" that I didn't do well on.  Thank God for program, awesome sponsorship and practice practice practice...Do the procedure and change the behavior toward better, safer outcomes.   ((((hugs)))) smile



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