Another day in paradise - Al-Anon Family Group

Debb · ~*Service Worker*~

Another day in paradise

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

I hear you Debbie. It is insanity that we are living with so that there is no predicting moods or outcomes.

Keep taking care of yourself and sharing here You are worth it.

Debb · ~*Service Worker*~

I have to come back every so often, and unfortunately it is when I get to a very low point. Most of the time I do pretty good, but want to say thank you for responsing Betty, it always amazes me that you guys are here and provide such wonderful support!! I am so grateful!! I also have to remember ... JADE = You do not need to Justify, Argue, Defend or Explain!!!

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

Insanity comes to mind...

Alcohol is poison to an A. So when they drink they poison themselves. Meaning their brain is not working, of course they make no sense.

We are not using, we are not compromising our brains, what makes us ask these questions? "denial" this is a perfect example of the insanity of how it affects us.

What in the world would make us ever think an A, especially an active A would act appropriately? A's drink and use other drugs, cats chase mice. What surprises us when they drink?

This is what makes Al Anon say over and over, quit thinking about them, look at ourselves. What is it about us that we are focusing how the disease affects us, and how we can and need to change that?

Even if they do not drink for a day or two, their bodies are still trying to heal from the destruction of the drug. When you scratch your arm on a branch how long does it take to heal? How long do you think it takes a body to recover from the person using a drug, alcohol, heroin or meth?

It's all insanity.

cloudyskies · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi Debb, I have realized that if my ah is drinking, he's going to look for anything that he can say that will cause me to blow up. If I blow up, then he has reason to drink more. I have learned to defuse these arguments before they can get started. I can usually tell if he has had even one beer. I remove myself from the "front lines" by going shopping, or visiting. By the time I come home, ah is usually sleeping.

el-cee said alcoholism is a thinking disease, and it certainly is. What we have to do is retrain our thinking. blankstare

Debb · ~*Service Worker*~

Debilyn and Linda you both have helped me tremendously ... I do need to be reminded of all the points you both made. and I thank you both for doing that. I see that I am going to have many more days ahead with my AH's tyraids because he got a raise yesterday and now he has more money to spend on alcohol. I anticipate, going forward, spending more time defusing destructive behavior. You know, it should be a happy time, that he got a raise, instead I anticipate that it is going to have a down side.

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

Step up...give him a soft hug and ask calmly..."so what are you feeling so guilty about"? Stand back 5 feet or so and allow him to respond or not. It isn't about you and I think you know that. Who knows he might want to talk. Freaking merry go round. ((((hugs)))) smile

Debb · ~*Service Worker*~

To Jerry .... you are so absolutely right!!! :) {{HUGS}} back at ya!!

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