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I've been in my new apt for a week. The apt turned out very nice it was completely remodeled with brand new fixtures and appliances. I've attended 2 meetings and I have kept in contact daily with my program friends. I start work Monday. Everything is going good. I've been thinking of my soon to be ex ah. I think it is because as I was unpacking I found a small Christmas album from a few years ago when he was sober. Those pictures brought tears to my eyes because in those pics we were so happy and in love aand now our lives are very different. I know I can't live in the past. Today my ex is in a relationship with a young girl who he says is keeping him sober. That I never could keep him sober. I don't take his words to heart I know he is said those things to make me feel bad. I haven't had any contact with him for a few months their isn't anything to say. When I've saved a little money I will file for divorce. He had kept saying he wanted a divorce but he hasn't said anything recently. I think me filing is more for my peace of mind. I can't move forward being still technically married to him. I know my HP never leaves my side and I am grateful for all I have. I'm just living life one day at a time.
So good to hear that your apartment is so nice AND most importantly that you know not to take AH's comments personally. Although he isn't working a program, you are and look at how far you've come!
Sounds like you are doing a great job of moving on with your life and your recovery! So glad to hear that things are going well and that you like the new place.
Have a blessed and beautiful weekend, TG, sending you lots of virtual hugs today!
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((((TG))))...good on you and good to have you here even if your post reminded me of a relapse I had that I lived thru. We were separated and she was dating others and I was feeling that I imagined the whole thing ...blah, blah, blah. After a long period of time she called me to tell me that the company she was working for was having a Christmas Party and there wasn't anyone she would rather go to that than with me. Did I fall for that...Is the Pope a Catholic, do fish have scales and live in water? Big time and of course she got drunk and fell and got hurt and I got my "fixing position" back. In no time I was crazier than I was the first time I can to Al-Anon with one exception...I now knew and knew that I knew what it was all about and then finished the plan I had made of getting free and moving on. Much more was to happen and all of it good for both she and I...HP took over. Keep coming back. You sound like you're getting healthy. I was once told by an Al-Anon woman that "tear glands are there for a reason...use them from time to time". LOL what an up program. (((((hugs)))))
Congratulations on your new place. New beginnings can be exciting. Physical separation can feel overwhelming and there's no time limit on grieving someone. It takes what it takes.
I couldn't help but compare your remodeled apartment with new fixtures and appliances to our recovery in Alanon and the healthy changes we try to make and the tools of the program that help us to keep recovering. It takes courage to give ourselves the best life we can, to turn our will to our hp and allow hp to close doors and open new ones for us. Lots of good things happening for you! Wishing you continued happiness and serenity. ((hugs)) TT
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