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Mirandac


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Just received my divorce papers from my husband. I have a lawyer

but i guess things werent moving fast or good enough for him, so

he retained his own and filed for divorce. Just received the papers

In certified mail. He is in a big rush to get me out of the home.

 



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Nothing happens in this situation until the JUDGE says so .. so do NOT leave the house (talk to your atty first) .. he wants to leave he can do so of his own free will. I hope that you attend meetings and have a strong circle of support. I'm very sorry that this has happened NOW is the time to take care of you.

Hugs S :)

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Mirandac


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Yes i do attend alanon and have lots of support. I called my sponsor and
My lawyer. Hopefully will make alanon this morning and go swimming with
My sponsor


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Prayers Mirandac You are not alone

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Prayers Mirandac...good you have meetings and a sponsor. 



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I mostly want to send you a hug and love!! Remember you don't have to do a thing. Go at your own pace. take a breath. Do you have support?

We are here for you!! Tell us and others what you need!Pm if  you need to. hugs, debilyn



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Mirandac


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Thank you all for your support and prayers. Yes i do have a lot of support.
This journey has been 3 years In the making. Now its just the grand finally
It really doesn't matter who the woman is and or why? I have processed most
Of the pain betrayal and hurt already.

After dry ah started emotional recovery in aa he did not know his feeling for me but at the same
Time became very abusive. The verbal and the emotional abuse has not really stopped
For almost three years. Sometimes if he didn't have an uncomfortable feeling about
Me he could be pleasant and normal. But mostly he just pretended and went thru
The motions. Then he moved on to the passive aggressive approach. That has been
Since he made the decision to pursue his woman friend and go for a divorce.

I will be glad when this is all over with



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I am so sorry for you. I was advised to "stay put" by my atty, but I just got to my bottom and decided to leave. But, I am still here only because I need $ in order to leave and it is locked in retirement funds and home equity. Just like you I just can't wait for it all to be over and move on.

It is a very challenging time. Hang in there and keep your chin up. 

((( hugs  ))))))

 

 



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"M" the "other" woman may be a crazy attempt at an amends for him...the changing what he can without becoming more honest and responsible.  Don't know and I've seen it often including my own journey.  Bet he's got some real guilt and shame stuff he's trying to cover up for himself and then this is an opportunity to exercise empathy and compassion for her.  Let go and Let God...HP's gotcha.   (((((hugs))))) smile



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Mirandac


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Thank you for the wisdom jerry. I am so confused by all his
Behaviors since joining aa but it seems like he is going backwards
Not forward. He likes to help the young guys coming in trying to stay sober.
He has stayed sober for 30 years with sheer will power, so he helps them.
Also he likes needy females that treat him as a hero, it feeds his ego.
I do know there are abuse issues that he really need professional help with
But first he must admit to them and want to stop with his behaviors.
It is truly a family disease passed down the generations.


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