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Just a quick hello I've been going to bed early (SHOCK! HORROR!) because..I like to be awake and alert when I go for my little drives during the day lol. I'm taking it slowly, my car is big and sort of like driving a tank compared to what I learnt in so I go a little further each day running senseless errands like going out for coffee then later going out because we are getting low on dish-washing liquid..then again in case I want a banana for breakfast or I suddenly need stuff from the hardware store lol it's actually a little expensive going to the shops all the time and I might need a new excuse to go for frequent drives!!Also I need to invent a new bio-fuel source, cat-wee would be a good one as I have plenty of that to spare lol.
I'm having fun though, really enjoying my freedom and EVERYTHING feels possible now; moving house isn't so scary, i can take rubbish to the tip and dump bags of clothes and toys at the opshop to make the move easier, it's all good.
My course starts next week so in the meantime I'm just getting as much cleaning and throwing out done as I can while I have the spare time, and I'm enjoying it because I may not have this much freedom again for a long time (I aim to be busy )
I've also been busy starting up a kind of support group for spouses of computer game/internet porn addicts and it's coming together really well although WOW is it time consuming, I have an even deeper respect for John now managing this huge family of boards!! It's very rewarding though.
Anyway I'm still around, just really focused on action at the moment and also making sure I take time for my al-anon work each day because I let it lapse again for a week or so and BOOM- crying, moody, poor me started to come back almost immediately. Amazing how quickly it works and how much I notice when I don't practice my program!!!
Anyway love to all!!
(((Everyone)))
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If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
Yay! So happy for you. So much fun you're having driving around. Here's a plan. Hope you're ok with some joking. Take your A partner with u on a drive when he is drunk and bothering you...find a field or an area with a bunch of trees...gently open the door and maybe he will just fall out in the middle of nowhere. Lol. Maybe not...you don't want to lose your license!!! Just a thought....so many things we can do when they are drunk and they'll never know. Ok...hope I didn't go overboard. Gotta laugh about these A people in our lives.
Oh one of the greatest things about this is the fact that I never have to be in a car with a drunk person again if i don't want to!! My car is a dry-zone now
It's also clean, doesn't smell of smoke and it's possible to see out of the windows. I barely recognise it
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If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
Funny. So I might need to be in this support group of yours. My AH has been on a website posting personal information about our family...not like I do here...his website is disgusting and includes making comments on porn, posting porn, etc. he tries to convince me every man is like him and it's just humor. I don't approve of it when he is talking to strangers about his sex life and how porn comes first, then maybe his wifey. I just wanted to break the computer after reading that crap. But, I am the sick one who stalked him on there. He says it's an outlet for him and when it upsets me he knows it's because I think I am flawless and I have no sense of humor. It's maddening.
I would not like that either. How disrespectful and hurtful.
The A that I live with has been pretty awful lately too but, I'm just refusing to let it hurt me anymore. If he wants to keep pushing me away by being awful then he is only hurting himself. When it starts to get under my skin and i feel myself getting angry or sad i am trying to remember to just hand it over to HP and remember I am powerless over those feelings and all I can do is abstain from the situations that cause them! Or something like that.
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If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
Love, love, love the gift you gave yourself, Melly, in learning to drive and returning your car to yourself! Those short practice runs may well be worth the petro costs for now and I love that you are doing this to build up your confidence in your driving skills. Cats being what they can be - once they get wind of us considering how we can take advantage of their going anywhere but the litter - will probably teach themselves how to use the toilet and flush it all down? Independent little creatures they can be.
Classes start next week already. I love this for you, too. Breaking the isolation even more and hanging out with people who have your same interests. Woo Hoo, Melly!
Oh CATHERINE I think you just solved one of my biggest problems! If I REWARD the cat for peeing on my bed, clothes, shoes, couch etc and chase him away from the litter box...oh it's PERFECT. And even better, any time I see him go to pee in the litter box I'll grab him and rush to my bed and place him on my pillow! He'll never pee anywhere BUT the litter box then!!!
Thanks for the encouragement
I'm quite excited about life at the moment and that's not something I thought I would be saying 6 months ago. Yay!!!!
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If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
I've been going to bed early (SHOCK! HORROR!) because..I like to be awake and alert when I go for my little drives during the day lol. I'm taking it slowly, my car is big and sort of like driving a tank compared to what I learnt in so I go a little further each day running senseless errands like going out for coffee then later going out because we are getting low on dish-washing liquid..then again in case I want a banana for breakfast or I suddenly need stuff from the hardware store lol it's actually a little expensive going to the shops all the time and I might need a new excuse to go for frequent drives!!Also I need to invent a new bio-fuel source, cat-wee would be a good one as I have plenty of that to spare lol. 
