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I'm up every other morning puckering at 1 am and have to take a strong nerve pill,I'm working step one right now and takeing my time to really understand the meaning of it,I'm relying soo much on this program and 12 steps everyday all most all day long wanting relief from all this pain of liveing with an a,he has been good to me and staying close to me but he has no choice for I'm the only roof he has,it seems the spark is gone that he once had for me before he. cheated I'm thinking the spark is with her,he talk about it at all or about her.i can just tell that the spark we once had is gone,although he also got into some crime that he didn't get caught in but his buddy got locked up for life and he has been worried that they will pick him up for questioning he was right in there with them so he stays here with.me a lot other than work,but I'm haveing nerve sickness I know and that is from his affair he had we did a lot together and loved each other deeply ,until she came along,now it's not the same with him,she even said during her being with him that she would marry him in a min. If it weren't for her already being married,she jumped on my bf.when she got the. chance and I told her and warned her to back off so I searched and searched untill I found her husbands ph, no and called him and told him everything that I knew they were doing.he said he was going to kick her out.its all ended between them now my bf hasn't a phone to call her on for he lost his .i e got to get to feeling better quick or I'm gonna get ulcers,he ain't right.why can't I live alone ?or make him leave so I can move on.or will we get better in our relationship?are there a thing I should be telling him .we argued at the drive through restaurant last nite for there were 2police cars sitting there and he didn't want to go inside I threw it up to him what he put me through all the secrecyies,popping in and out and staying gone for hrs and no money he said he would just leave I said leave then that I would export him to the door when we got home he shut up.im really tired and why do I or can I even love a man like that?



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el-cee


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Im glad you are embracing the program. It was the only answer I ever found and I have felt like a new person now. Keep going. Your obsession with him and rose coloured glasses will fade and reality will free you from this.

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Thank you elcee I've soo enjoyed all your replies,and Betty's replies,and everyone elses

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Lots of encouragement to continue to focus on you, attend meetings and hopefully find a sponsor who can help you work the steps.

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Keep coming back and posting...get all of the garbage out that has been poisoning you for a long time.  Keep working your recovery and you will be pleasantly surprised as to who is in you waiting to come outsmile  We see her and she is lovely.



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Thank you all ,again y'all make my day seem lighter I can't even get out of a counselor all the good y'all to for me.

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You are most welcome...

 



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el-cee


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I dont think there is a counsellor in the world that could give you what this fellowship can. As jerry always says, we got it for free and to keep it we need to give it away. It wont be long until your giving it away too. Also, its good for everyone to share, newcomers and longer members alike.x

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If your a was with someone who got put away for life during a crime, this could easily mean he will be charged.

I am not an attorney. But I have seen people like you who are innocent go to jail for aiding and abbedding,

where you are keeping a person you know is  a criminal.

this is  a dangerous situation.

I am glad you came here to let it out. we are here for you. debilyn



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Good point, Debilyn. Lookingup, this is why this community is so valuable.  We see different pieces and from different perspectives when we post.



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To piggyback on Debilyn's post, not only could you be implicated in his crime, you could always be involved in ways that were stimulated by his criminal actions with other criminals who can show up at your door. I know you will do what you think is best for you, LU, and I do think that sometimes the anxiety that rises up in you can be trying to show you what kind of situation you are in? The drug culture is about money and retribution and is often participated in by people who are out of their minds on chemicals that alter their ability to think clearly. My x had a friend who was in his 20s and murdered on a park bench in broad daylight by a gunman. It is suspected it was a drug deal that went bad. Fortunately, this guy wasn't married, didn't have children, and didn't have a spouse. He was playing a dangerous game in a dangerous culture and it killed him. It was a direct consequence of his buying and selling. What if he had been sitting on that park bench with his child or a girlfriend who were totally innocent of any wrongdoing. I doubt the gunman would have cared if somebody else was killed when he decided to shoot this young man in the head in a park during the day. Your bf isn't going to protect you when push comes to shove. You are the only person who can do that for you, LU.



-- Edited by grateful2be on Tuesday 29th of July 2014 01:20:46 PM

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