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My girls, my sister and her family and my mom and I are all going to a theme park tomorrow. I have had a really bad last 4-5 days on an emotional roller coaster. I used to love roller coasters as a teenager. I had no fear. As I get older I have become really afraid and anxious regarding roller coasters, so I usually just watch the kids ride them. Since I am working on myself, I think it would be great to ride a roller coaster tomorrow...or 2 or 3!! Maybe a ride on one will help me with my emotional roller coaster!! :) just wanting to be brave and just do it...with my luck lately hopefully it won't break down or something. I think my kids would love it if I joined them...I need to ride a FUN roller coaster...not a crazy emotional one!!
-- Edited by Newlife girl on Wednesday 23rd of July 2014 12:54:03 AM
Oooh do it! I'm all about facing fears lately. I've grown to be a very fearful adult too and, it's no way to live! I hope you have an awesome fun day. (((NLG)))
-- Edited by missmeliss on Wednesday 23rd of July 2014 01:02:03 AM
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If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
Thanks! I will ride at least one...I think! Hope you don't mind if I ask,have you had a fear of getting your license or have you driven before? I got mine when I was 16. Can't imagine not being able to drive.
I have had a morbid terror of getting my licence lol. I was shaking so much today I honestly thought I would be sick on the steering wheel or pass out! At this point I have had quite a few lessons and don't feel so nervous about driving...that part I have the hang of...but for some reason the actual test terrified me and I failed the first attempt a month ago because I was so nervous I couldn't think clearly. Crazy, huh.
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If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
Do it .. Do it .. Do it :) I know my limits AND I have the right to change my mind or not .. sometimes I just need to feel the fear and do it anyway!! REGARDLESS if you go ON the physical rollercoaster (I'm all about staying away from the emotional one!) make the day a day full of wonderful memories!!
Hugs S :)
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
More people die of stress related diseases than on roller coasters. If you really want to do this, let go and scream, too. That's always part of the fun for those who ride it. I love that you want to go have some fun!
Have fun! I can't help you with roller coasters - I don't ride them. I figure if I've made it this far in life, just to die on a roller coaster, too many people will be laughing at me at my funeral. I almost bought a shirt at King's island that had the top 10 reasons I didn't do coasters!
But the rest of my family loves them. They can't figure out why I like theme parks, because I get dizzy easily, and don't like coasters anymore, but I like theme parks just to see the smiles of my loved ones as they get off the rides! So I say go for it, get some of those smiles!!
Thanks everyone. Missmeliss, I failed my first test too. So did my daughter! That's great you tried again and didn't give up!
El cee, good point. Will let you all know what happens. Kenny...so funny. Hopefully I won't die.
Good point grateful. I just hope I don't have any anxiety attacks. Last time I rode one I triple checked the bar over my head to make sure it was secure. I don't trust anything.
I rode a roller coaster first thing! It was ok, even though I had a death grip on the bar and my hands were sweating. The kids had a great time. The only thing that bothers me is my sister is appearing anxious and bossy the more I am around her. My mom tends to be negative in general. My mom just completed radiation and chemotherapy about 5 months ago. But she has always had a pretty negative outlook on life. I think she had a good time until the end of the day when we were all really tired. I had to really take a few deep breaths with my sister trying to tell me things I already understood...tried to work my program as far as being patient and not let her get to me. Its sad to me that I am not as close to my sister as I would like to be. Family issues are not fun.
Trying to keep it simple today.
My mom is really negative a very good girlfriend of mine used to laugh when we were teens and call her martyr mom .. she is just horribly negative and I now can see it more clearly and feel sorry for her that her life is not that bad and yet I don't know when we talk if she has anything positive to say in a given conversation.
She came with me to a meeting once and made a comment about how Alanon had helped me be more positive .. I silently laughed to myself knowing .. oh mom .. God love you .. may you find something positive for you.
Big trips like this can be hard .. HALT really helps me keep things in perspective .. I know when I'm with my mom I loose sight of my own needs and really need to make sure I address them as I need to.
I'm so glad you had a good time! It's so wonderful to have those memories and sis got a little bossy .. so what .. in the big scheme of things it's great that you know you don't have to take that stuff on.
Big hugs and keep on keeping on :)
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
Glad to know you got that roller coaster ride out of the way, survived it, and are here to share the story of it with us, too. Negativity is certainly one of our isms and we can notice it most when we're actively healing. Surviving is the name of the game until we begin to thrive. Then we see we really don't need that shroud of gloom and doom anymore. Glad you are shedding the shroud and noticing more the blessings of your life. Our families often show us what we are growing through in my experience.
