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andromeda


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I am looking for someone from MIP to check in with me daily to make sure I am doing what I'm supposed to be doing with my program: am I reading, am I journaling, am I writing in my gratitude journal, am I getting to meetings and, if so, when? Am I watching my spending and sticking to a budget or being controlled with my spending, etc.  I would love to do this with my sponsor but she is overwhelmed right now with her own personal issues.  Also, since my schedule changes every single day, I thought it would be easier to find someone online who can check in with me randomly, maybe every morning or every evening.  I am truly looking to take my growth to the next step.  I'm nearly done working the steps themselves and I'm looking forward to starting over again with step 1.  

I guess needing accountability is key.  The big one is: I am staying out of RAH's business and out of his recovery?  That is HUGE for me because I tend to wander to the other side of the street every so often.  Ok, well, maybe it's more than every so often, LOL.  So, who's game?



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Debilyn


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Dear one, recovery is a very personal thing. In my experience we live it better if we keep ourselves accountable. No one can do this for us.

Reading the daily odt and c2c help, possibly you could get some books that have daily affirmations. or keep a journal of goals.

Just a thought. hugs



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I agree with Deb's analysis. I believe that alanon tries to enable us to assume responsibility for ourselves and in so doing we become empowered. I insist my sponsee call me because I am not their warden or Mom .
Why not come here daily and post a progress report and we can all support your efforts.

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Agree with the other ladies :) Part of my own growth is my own personal responsibility and growth.

Hugs :)

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Agree with the others ;)another persons recovery is theirs to work ;) I can only watch myself and stay in my hula hoop. Watching others and being other and outer focused is what brought me to alanon. I check in every day with my sponsor, it helps me build self love and confidence in myself. If your sponsor is too busy, I hope you will check in here with us. Blessings :)

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andromeda


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Thanks for the feedback everyone. I guess I was just looking for someone to check in with daily since my sponsor is difficult to connect with. I know there are folks in program who check in daily with friends or sponsees, etc regarding daily prayer or accountability. I was hoping to find that online but I see what you guys are saying. I wasn't trying to avoid responsibility, I was just looking for encouragement and for someone to encourage, as well, so that we could grow together. I've been having some issues with people in my home group and I think it's just setting me back in my program because I've felt that I've gone to people there for support, only to feel like I've gone to the hardware store looking for bread, just like with the alcoholic. My sponsor suggested that I change home meetings, since she left that meeting for the same reason that I've been struggling but Friday nights are really my only free day that is consistent(and it gives me a chance to sign up for service commitments,which I truly get so much out of right now). I try to pick up 2 other meetings a week but it varies: some weeks I can go on Monday AM and some weeks I'm going to Wed and Thurs night meetings.

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Mattie


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My schedule and where I am (what time zone etc.) is so changeable that right now I can't keep regular schedules for many things, and I really miss it.  I can tell I get more disoriented and flaky at times like this.  So good for you for recognizing that external support helps keep the internals going.  For four years I had two online pals I checked in with (we all checked in together) every day and it was absolutely so valuable.  So I know it's good to be able to do it all alone, but I also know how much farther ahead I am after having some pals to check in with.  I hope you find someone at MiP or maybe from your local group -- it sure is a help to me when I can do it.



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andromeda


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Thanks Mattie! By the way, how are you guys and how is your summer going? And, yes, you're spot on. I get flaky and just feel like I'm floating through my days instead of accomplishing the things I need to be. I also think part of that is SUMMER and the fact that friends are on vacation, we were on vacation, no strict schedule, etc.

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...perhaps there is someone who would like a reciprocal accountability partnership? (((andromeda)))



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Cathyinaz


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Well how about I show up next Friday and we will talk, get to know each other and get some accountability together. I found just talking to people helps me stay on my side of the street. Somebody to talk to and vent and have honest feedback without getting mad or upset. Sometimes somebody else can give us something that we don't see in ourselves.

I'm a old lady but we do have one thing in common don't we.

(((( hugs ))))

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Debilyn


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I like what Betty said about coming here every day with a daily hi and vent or whatever you want! I know you were not asking for too much at all. Its more that we all have lives, some crazier than others and would not want to forget or be so commited.

I would like to see a daily or whatever update from you! hugs,debilyn



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I agree too. Coming here has always given me support and accountability


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