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I woke up this morning and I just didn't want to work today. It has been so stressful and I know I needed to go to work but I just called in sick. No I'm not sick but I don't care. If I didn't take this day off to be by myself and just veg out I don't what I would be like tonight. Did I do wrong yes but so be it. Sometimes you just have to stop and take care of you or it will just continue to get worse.
Got a good letter from my son. He is telling me about the place and how grateful to be placed there. He said it's more of a long term rehab and everyone calls it "camp snoopy" He starts classes that will take about 2 years to complete. Intense drug and alcohol treatment. He will also be able to work when he can prove the has his high school diploma because you can't work there if you don't have it or a GED. If you don't, you have take classes the to get one. I have his records so I will send them to the prison.
He is so grateful he can go outside and get some sun and was able to be outside during a rain storm at night. He just sat there and let the rain fall on him....UNTIL somebody set off the fire alarm that put them all in locked down at night for a couple of days.
He is also grateful there is no politics. No whites with whites, blacks with blacks. Everyone gets along for the most part because it's only drug or alcohol offenses. He said he filled out the final paperwork so I can visit in a few weeks. I haven't got anything back on my background check so who knows how long that takes.
I pray and hopeful this will help my son come to terms with his disease and come out a better man. Only time will tell. I tell HP how grateful I am that my son is still alive. That's all I can say for right now, the rest is up to him and his HP.
((( hugs ))) I already feel better just writing this post and grateful for the ability to do it.
Prayers for everyone to have a peaceful weekend
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
To me, we are our own employers and if the boss says you absolutely have to take the day off to reduce the level of stress you are under before you end up flat on your back in bed for weeks, then we do what the boss says. The calling in sick part when we're not sick - well, each to his/her own on that one. In my younger days, I drank too much one night. I had a horrible hangover. I went to work and tried to work for a few hours. Finally, I just told my office manager that I had made the mistake of over-indulging with friends and that I was sick with a hangover. She told me to go home and do what I needed to do for me. My office mate had a fit! She'd call in with migraines when she didn't have a migraine. She was a very outwardly expressive person and stated flat out with me and the office manager in the office we all worked together in: "What!!!!!!!!!!! She's telling you she has a hangover and you're telling her she can go home without docking her pay?!!!!???? What kind of boss does that?" My boss just smiled and repeated: "Go home and do what you need to do for you." That was the last time I over-indulged and it was also the last time I put a glass of anything alcohol to my lips until I was much, much older and would treat myself to an occasional after dinner drink on a special occasion. Thanks for the reminder of those years. The memory made me smile. It also makes me smile to see you taking care of yourself, Cathy. Nobody else will do that for you.
Reading the update on your son's experience brings tears to my eyes. We are so scared that if we don't help them then something horrible will happen to them. Then, their HP shows up and more is revealed that we never, ever expected or could see in the future for our loved ones. The fact that he is seeing the benefits to where he is rather than loading on the negatives in letter form says a lot to me. I'm very happy to read what he has written you. I'm also very happy to know that you let go and let God.
Cathy I am so relieved your son is safe and sounds like he is doing well! I find myself almost embracing those times when my heart/body take over and stop me from doing anything because it needs a break and it knows better than my brain - I listen to it and dump all my plans without a fight, lay on the couch all day, eat potato chips if I want, run to the local pub for a burger to bring home and eat, etc. Enjoy your day, go with the flow.
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I am strong in the broken places. ~ Unknown
All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another! ~ Anatole France
Grateful - I would suspect you were a good employee who didn't use sick as an excuse to not work; also suspect that the co-worker was the opposite and the boss knew it!
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I am strong in the broken places. ~ Unknown
All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another! ~ Anatole France
I am really bad or good at it depends on your perspective, when I need what I call a mental health day, I just take it. In doing hospice I have never heard anyone say I wish I hadn't missed that day of work. Take care of you! Sending you love and support!
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Sending you love and support on your journey always! BreakingFree
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