Although I have only attended a few f2f meetings and reading the posts from this site for 3 months, I have picked up skills to deal with non - A people too! 

I have been working 14-16 hours a day for the last 3 weeks. There were deadlines and analysis was needed like 2 weeks ago. I was asked to take up this project 3 weeks ago and the primary role is to oversee the person taking the data and liasoning with the person analyzing the data. Now, that was the last week for the person taking the data and it was something new for him too. At the end of my first week, my conclusion was "the method does not work because the error is too large". My co-worker would not accept this, so she got someone else to collect data. She has been pulling a long face since then. My old self would have been very traumatized because of my need to please. I pulled out my toolbox and said to myself "whatever" and ignored her too. So I focused on putting as much time as possible to the project assisting the new person who was helping us. 10 days later, the same conclusion was reached by everyone. I would have loved to say "I told you so" but I held my tongue because "I mean what I say, say what I mean, and do not say it mean". I cannot achieve anything by being hurtful. My co-worker is still pulling a long face and ignoring me. I am bothered but not as much compared to my old self. I just have to remember: "This too shall pass." Yay!

My AH, in the meantime, has added to the stress even though we are separated. I do not see him at all and only drops off the kids at the mall for him. It was our anniversary and he text "happy ann". Although I felt like "yay right! Happy?" I still replied "you too". Then came the "what is your plan during the weekend, how about we go for a trip?" Me thinking "huh? If I go, why did I move in the first place? Which part of separated do you not know? HELLO?? " but I replied with a simple "no". The barrage of abuses began. Accusations flying "sleeping with co-worker" (the one pulling the long face now!), blah and blah. All in all, a very skewed view of sex and women. I told him to back off but it was only making him say worse things. So I ignored  his texts completely and after a while he stopped. 4 months ago, such incidents would bring me to tears and I would try to explain to him how ridiculous his accusations were. I would try for hours talking to a brick wall. Now, I am just disgusted with him and I could cut him off like a on/off switch. Thank God for the Serenity to know this is one thing I cannot change but I sure can change my approach. 

Happy I survived attack from AH and work. Tough but good week in general.  

On a lighter note, someone called to asked if he can date my 12 years old? "Of course NOT"  She doesn't even like him! (Thank God) So glad we are separated. Now I have more time to entertain such silly requests. Teenagers!!!