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My A and I got into an argument, and instead of talking it out he decided to go drink himself silly. That was last night. Today he has spent most of the day throwing up and sleeping on the bathroom floor, instead of taking his daughter out for her birthday like he had promised. His daughter and his mom have been trying to get ahold of him, but he hasn't been answering his phone, and I know as soon as he contacts his mom. In the past, something like this would cause him to detox, and I'm pretty sure that's going to be the case this time around as well. The last two times he detoxed, he did it at home, and it was very frightening for me - he would shake uncontrollably, he'd get hot and cold, and I was terrified. I have since found out that detox can bring about a heart attack or stroke, and because of this, I do not want him to detox at home. He is very stubborn and hates the hospital - if he refuses to let me take him to the emergency room, should I call 911? I know I may be putting the cart before the horse (because he could very well go drown his sorrows even more instead of deciding to detox), but I don't want to be second guessing myself at the last minute.
I'd call. What he does from there for me is up to him. If I know I'm not qualified to handle a medical emergency, I'd consider his no to going to the ER is him being out of his mind. I'd see myself as the only one qualified to make a call or not. He can still refuse their assistance when ER arrives but that is theirs to handle from there.
I would call too. Very dangerous to detox on your own. In fact I have called on my son....they just don't realize what can happen when they are so sick.
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Absoluteley NO ONE should detox any drug at home.Yes they can die, my fil did!!! They need their vitals watched and also need physical support if there body cannot handle it.
I sure hope he doesn't. Believe me it is NOT pleasant to see what they go thru and i sure would not want to chance it. If he does I think I would plan a vacation for a week or go somewhere else if he chooses to.
i am not kidding. I am thinking if you stay it is like enabling him to do it. NOT your job. hugs honey~
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Sounds like the MIP group conscious is to make the call. I've made the call before and then at times didn't. I came away with the experience that now I will always make the call. You have the experience of not making the call in the past and what happened because of it...so making the call will have different consequences for him, for you, for the family. I make the call because professionals are needed. In support (((((hugs)))))
Yes, I would call 911. I called 911 once for my AH. I wasn't sure if I had done the right thing. Always questioning myself. I asked the paramedics when they arrived if it was the right thing to call them. He said of course! I was surprised at how concerned they were about his drunken passed out state...I was used to seeing him like that, but this time was worse. He ended up with stitches in his leg. To this day he tells me it was a choice I made to call 911 and I didn't have to do it. He even removed the stitches on his own about a week later. The A usually is in denial about the seriousness of their situation, so that leaves us questioning the seriousness as well.
Thank you everyone for you ESH and your input. I figured the best thing was to call, but I'm great at second guessing myself so your reassurance was much needed.
If a person is chronic like my son was I would call. I watched the seizures and that alone is terrible. When my son had one at my house I didn't know what to do. He was on his back and he turned blue on me and was not breathing well. I was crying and picked his head up and held it to my chest. He turned pink again. I didn't know at the time but if someone is having a seizure turn them on their side so their tongue doesn't block their airway. I have seen my son where his potassium was so depleted he could of had a heart attack or stroke. Dehydration is bad too and not getting enough fluids during detox could cause many things to happen. DT's, hallucinations, fever and rapid heart rate should all be watch by a professional. I know I been through it. The last time my son detoxed his BAC was .57 not good.
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.