Good for you for sticking up for yourself!  And your supervisor is exactly the right person to handle other employees who are slacking.  I hope he/she steps up to the plate.

I read something really interesting about men vs. women once.  It said that typically (of course not always), men tend to treat everyone as fellow employees, even their friends.  Whereas women tend to treat everyone as friends, even their fellow employees.  Thus men are not always so good at the non-work world, and women are not always perfectly adapted to the work world.  Because when a man would say, "Who cares, they're not close to me, other employees can do what they like," women tend to take it personally, as if it were friends or potential friends behaving weirdly.  So I guess the lesson for us women is to treat employees like employees, not like members of our friendship circle.

If they're slacking, though, they need to pick up their end of the burden.  And if they don't, you still would benefit from setting boundaries and doing just your work and no one else's, even if that means some crucial part doesn't get done.  Because if someone else doesn't do their part of the work, and you pick it up and do it instead, that hides their laziness from the company and the consequences from the employees themselves.  I guess that's what we'd call "workplace enabling."

Also, you deserve a less stressful life!  Keep taking good care of yourself!

It seems that any co. I have ever worked for had the workers (me in this group) and the slackers. I like to work hard and feel good at the end of the day, but there is a limit to what we can, and should, do. I don't mind going above and beyond, to a point. It is easier if you don't feel like you are being taken advantage of. Where I am now, (doctor w/ specialty services) they give me a lot of "free" or dscounted services to me and my family, and I give above and beyond, but feel there is a fair balance. I look out for the interest of the company, and they look out for me. 

There is a right and wrong way to "file" grievances. Keep logs; and follow-up. Be pleasant, even when they are not. And just state the facts, w/o a lot of excuses, or feeling bad, or any of that. This is what is going on and why I think it must be corrected. PERIOD. 

Say what you mean; mean what you say, and be kind. :)

 

Hey who cares what these rude people think! I am proud of you for standing up and saying NO MORE! You did nothing wrong supporting your best friend, YOU.

I invite you to feel empowered. NO more saying I am this or that. Change that negative crap! I am a good worker, I take care of business! I deserve to be treated fairly, I will not allow anyone to mess with me!

believe me we can change how we are, we can grow and feel so much better. Its not hard to stop being a doormat. People who matter will respect you. Ones who don't, who cares. If they won't accept your friendship that is their problem.

I worked in the school district. No one intimidated me after a few years. I hated being a wus, I would call my mother and cry. NO More. I learned when I had kids, especially a boy to stand up. Boys tend to have more issues with other boys that are older. ONce i faced a few of them, I grew up.

I stood straighter, felt my own power, smiled more, gave stuff i did not like no energy. i think about you and see ya putting your palm up and saying sista please!!

Ya I hate the immature talking about others stuff. If you hear them again I would go up to them and say oh you talking about me??I didn't know I was that interesting!! Do tell!!!!!

People like that are very insecure, they gotta hurt others to feel big. ugh.

Hugs  hugs, Find that tough loving person inside you, let her out! You did the right thing!!! Hp is guiding you!

Work problems are not fun. Yes you went about things the right way, don't second guess yourself. Sounds like you were non confrontational, professional and nice about it. If the people at work still don't help you, I would think of a solution and then go to your supervisor with it. Supervisors like it when you come to them with a solution and not a problem. Like us, they want less work and less problems .and not more so it is a tough balance. That said you still need to go to them with these sorts of things they need to be aware of these things but the truth is (in my experience) is that often times they aren't much help ..because like you, they want to be liked at the office too.

It might help you to feel less of a doormat if you can be proactive and try to think of a solution to how to change things around the office.FOr example,what if you and your co-workers had catch up meetings every month about the work that needs to be done, you could invite your coworkers to the meeting in an email and cc your boss on the details of the meeting, it may make them feel more accountable to help you. You could even welcome your boss to attend the meeting. This positions you as the one in control to your boss as well as your coworkers. If they still won't help you then start writing down all the extra things you do for your job and go to your supervisor for a raise in 6 months. You are your best advocate at work it is important to be assertive in a positive and professional way which it sounds like you are doing.

It sucks to feel you are the odd man out at work (I've been there many times), people who feel the need to talk about and put down others are probably not very happy people inside. if you are feeling like people are talking about you just go to your HP. In fact ask your HP how you can make things better at work for yourself. If things at work don't improve your energy maybe better spent looking for another job. Best of luck to you ..