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Katy


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He threw the photo's of our holiday at me and said there deny that, so I looked at him and said, thankyou I will take these to the doctors with me when I go in a bit and ask for help because I am cracking up with this insanity, he said you do that, he was asking me questions, well really talking at me not too me, and when I replied he headed out of the door, he always has done that, when I give the wrong answers, so I started to gather my stuff, just important stuff like work files and my favourite bits and pieces, my phone, , and money, and I went to try and see a doctor, they were fully booked until the following day so I said I will take anything, I then headed off to my friends and asked If I could take her up on her kind offer of somewhere to stay and she said of course you can.

So here I am, with really not much more than the clothes on my back, and I feel like a misplaced person and my emotions are all over the shop, but you know I was always ready to do this, it seems though I just couldn't find the  strength and courage, but I have done it and I was ready and it was the right time, I have been left now three days I haven't told my daughter just in case I go back as I have done zillions of times before, my son knows as he still lives at home, and my husband has made no contact either, but I think I know hell would freeze over before he would anyway.

The last few years have been very difficult so much manipulation and control, but everything he did made me stronger and everything else allowed me to really feel and experience and actually know this isn't loving someone healthily, so although I am terribly chewed up inside I know this is the right thing to do for me, I am trying to not look too far ahead just get through things minute by minute, I will keep you all posted.xxxxxxxxxxxx

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Katy

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Katy
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Prayers and positive thoughts Katy Please keep us posted.

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((Katy))

God grant us the courage to change the things we can - you've changed something! I'm sending you support and prayers.

Kenny

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(((Katy)))

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Prayers, Katy....we are here.



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Sending a big hug......be kind to yourself...allow healing time.. <3

 



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That took courage katy, keep your program close.x

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(((( big hug )))) from across the pond. Take a deep breath and try to get some rest.





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Katy


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Dear Friends.

It was very odd coming home from work on a Friday to someone elses home, especially as my friend was still at work, I was in two minds wether to stay out until she was in first but eventually I did come to my friends house and just sat in the  garden with the cat and my mip, my friend had a bad accident in march and shattered her left leg and has had a spacial frame on since, shes going into hostpital Tuesday all being well to have it removed and it's going to be forced first has shes struggling to get any bend in her knee, shes working in between and her sister comes on market days to take her van to market to set up the stall for her, and then my friend takes over, being around these amazingly loving people is so healing, we have just spent the evening in the summer house making looms a craze that has taken off here, and I can tell you I made two bracelets in the space of probably one hour and it was the most enjoyable mind calming fun I have had in ages, I am blessed to have such an amazing friend who shares her whole life with me, and I think I am being shown the way here and something is saying look what there is out there for you if you want it! If my mind is not kept busy it starts to think of my  own home and my heart aches, for all that I have left and all thats been lost, and I am asking myself what do I really want, and need in my life, I am healing here, there is peace and calm, and no drama, wow,

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Katy

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Perhaps this is a resting place for you, Katy? An oasis in the desert of your life? Drink in the pool of peace and calm and let yourself be in the safety of your friend's care for you. It might not be forever but it can be the place to sort out what to keep and what to let go of now. (((K)))

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Nice update Katy Keep taking care of yourself and heal the pain that dwells within before you make a decision ODAT works

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Good for you standing up for yourself. Get lotsa clarity.

well the more you have walked out, the closer you are to making it permanent.pushed the wrong button so this is huge and bold oops.

What do you have to go back to? Is this the feasible thing? You leave the house?

please keep letting us know how you are! everything will be ok! sincerely, debilyn



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