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astallaslions


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Why do they constantly harbor drama!!!! I had such a hard time finally reaching this point of needing change and now after all of this,  in my panicked state, I realized he has several important things of mine. A recorder my friend gave to me with my songs on it and the keys to my scooter and storage shed. I don't know how I missed these very important things, but it was such an insane time when it happened. He won't respond to my texts or calls. I just contacted the person I believe he's staying with to see if I could come by and talk to him in person, since he is ignoring me. If I am able to arrange that, I am thinking I may take my friends with me, just so things don't escalate--he's not violent, but if I have the buffer of others, I feel like he'll be better behaved and communicate with me more like a human instead of the evil ex girlfriend. If the friend doesn't respond, I'm not sure what to do. I lost address to where he's staying long ago. I'm not sure what to do if contacting the friend isn't successful. Any suggestions? 



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hotrod


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I agree the drama and confusion of these painful relationships are indeed overwhelming at times. If you do get to see him, going with a friend is a great idea.

I would also checkout the storage facility, explain the problem and see if hey have the duplicate key. I would do the same with the scooter That leaves only the recorder in question That may be much easier to negotiate
Good luck

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I would do what you have to, to change lock on storage or he may or others get in it. asap and also call the police so it is on record that he has the keys to scooter and shed.

you better keep scooter inside or at some other  place. myself I would take  care of that, then leave him alone. He is manipulating by taking the things that are not his. please don't allow him to control  you with his games.

He knows how you feel right now. It is up to you not to react. Its no different than when he was still with you. Ignore the invitation to continue in the insanity.

hugs, deb



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