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So I'm happy to say that I've started going to f2f meetings, on Tuesdays and Fridays. I'm also reading CAL which has really helped. I'm still very angry when I talk about my Qualifier to my family members and they are quick to remind me of this.. but I'm having trouble letting go of being so angry.. how do I shake this?
Choosing a sponsor..I know I can ask someone but it's hard to pick a person that I connect with..should I wait until I have gone to 6 meetings? I will ask someone tonight...
I have also stopped a lot of my enabeling that I was doing and don't feel as pressured as I did before to have to do everything for her. I thought I'd feel guilty about this but I don't..it is so freeing.
Thanks for letting me share.
Going to f2f meetings kept me healthy and rational, by listening I hear things which I wouldn't of considered doing or saying which help me to understand myself and my actions, I am angry too at the moment with myself for participating again in the chaos of my relationship, I reacted and I did what I always do and got what i always got, I have been trying to resolve this with myself ever since it happened on Monday, I am angry that I am being bullied into submission, and being controlled by silence, at first I was angry with him and now I am angry with myself for allowing it, I think it is tremendously helpful to share our problems with people who have lived with this, if i have a point of contact while the storm is brewing or even after it has passed it is very helpful, it takes me time to choose a person to trust, I need them to show me they walk the walk, I am so pleased you are feeling better not enabling, and feeling good about that, your awareness is coming through, and thats great x
Great job PMG Working the Steps and using the slogans helped me release the anger. Let go and Let God and How Important is it" repeated over and over when I felt the anger surge worked You are doing fine. Keep us posted
Good for you phoenix, you get what you put in and your being rewarded already and it gets better and better if you keep doing the work. It took me months to get a sponsor, im not sure if thats the right way or not, not sure there is a right way at all but take your time time, listen to what the members say, eventually you will feel drawn to someone. Easy does it, its working.x
