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I had to ask my son to leave a few times over the last few years because of his drinking as some of my friends here knows. So the last time he stayed with me was after he was hurt and left hospital, he then went to stay with a friend and he met someone. She is a really nice girl, friendly, sensible, calm, funny. They have moved in together and she has a baby too. The baby is gorgeous. You should see my son these days, im scared to say it, but he is responsible, he has taken to this little family like a duck to water, as if hes always been this way.
They have came for dinner a few times and it feels like a miracle has happened just for today, lol, cant say this is it, all is fixed, but right now he seems to have embarked into another chapter of his life that is so different from before. The old me is screaming for writing this down, ive tempted fate now and its all going to come crashing down and it will be my fault for saying it out loud. The new me knows I dont have that kind of power, lol. So, I have worked hard to keep I, self, me out of it. I dont tell her lovely things about him to manipulate her to love him more, I have not pulled the photos out, im not extra, desperate nice, im not asking and probing, well not too much. I stay back, out, trying to trust in me, him, my higher power.
I think he is still drinking occasionally but I have not heard of any drama around it. Im happy for my son right now, im not sure of his motives, where he is emotionally, this might all turn bad but its his life and his learning and all I can do is love regardless and at the same time protect me and my boundaries. Thanks for listening.x
This is a joyful experience in a moms world You are in a place in your recovery where you can savor it with the awareness of your many feelings, fear, etc and know that whatever happens you have the tools of recovery to help at a moments notice...like 911 on speed dial....I am happy for you.
el cee: To me, your entire share is demonstrating your program progress. You appear to be living in the day and enjoying it for what is revealed to you today. You aren't letting the past or future projections control your thinking. You are allowing your son the dignity of being in relationship to this gal and her child without interfering and you are trusting her HP and his to work things out between them with their cooperation. High five!
Awwwwwwwwwwww El-cee, that was brilliant to read, the thing I think of is, when they do experience the good stuff they then have a measure to go by, and I do always hope the good out ways the bad for them and they strive always for the good.
Thank you everyone, I am praying, thats about all I can do, im babysitting tomorrow while they decorate, so its a really nice turn of events. Its funny because she mentioned my son having beer while watching the world cup and she said they have been enjoying the football, then my face must have given away my feelings and he said oh dont worry mum i only ever behaved badly with you. In a strange way this was very reassuring.
Anyway, ive been working throughout june so no meetings but im on holiday now so meeting tonight, cant wait. Im loving my program at the moment to, it seems to be deeper again somehow, I intend to enjoy the summer, free time made me very nervous for years but im getting better at it. Have a nice day, lovely people.x
You're getting to see a very beautiful side of your son. That's a wonderful gift. Thank you for sharing about it here. Miracles happen every day. Keep hopeful. ((hugs)) TT
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Thank you, it has been very nice, even the way he is talking, when I offered to babysit, he said, no mum its ok, your on holiday, we can manage. I was thinking wow, thats different. Just for today, hes good and that is all I have got to deal with, thankfully. X
You are in a place in your recovery where you can savor it with the awareness of your many feelings, fear, etc and know that whatever happens you have the tools of recovery to help at a moments notice...like 911 on speed dial....I am happy for you.