Al-Anon Family Group

The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level.

Members Login
Username 
 
Password 
    Remember Me  
Post Info TOPIC: Told me his lawyer is calling me this week...and what about a Prepaid Legal Plan??


~*Service Worker*~

Status: Offline
Posts: 938
Date:
Told me his lawyer is calling me this week...and what about a Prepaid Legal Plan??


My AH does not want to hear me tell him I can't ever live with him again so he told me today to be expecting a call from his lawyer this week. Made me laugh. he doesn't have a job. His emotions are all over the place. I think it was an idle threat, but it also scared me a bit. Then I realized...I don't have to talk to anyone on the phone!! Right?? My friend is suggesting that I sign up with a prepaid legal plan called Legal Shield. Sounds good, but not too sure if I should do it. I will be having lots of legal issues this coming year. A house, a child, divorce, etc. The plan is about $20 a month and I can talk to a lawyer about anything. Has anyone ever had a plan like this? They also do wills.



__________________

Living life one step at a time



~*Service Worker*~

Status: Offline
Posts: 3496
Date:

Oh myy .. NLG .. you know .. why don't you wait for him to ACTUALLY do something .. can I just begin to tell you how much huff and puff all alcohol fog I have heard? I am calling my atty!! I'm not approving this or that .. blah blah blah .. I think it was here someone described it as a blue fog .. I call it alcohol fog.

Please take a BIG breath .. STOP and wait .. just because an atty calls DOESN"T mean you need to have to make a decision or act.

You can't eat an elephant all in one setting.

When you get some sleep (I know advice this worked for me and still does .. do a gratitude list before bed and even if you only find 5 things .. find those 5 things and focus on them as you fall asleep, 5 things when you wake up before your feet hit the floor) .. THEN you can take one step at a time. Atty's usually will allow you one consultation for free .. ONCE you hear from his atty .. sit down and write out your questions .. call and start setting up appointments. Ask your questions.

There are atty's who will do a flat fee for a divorce ASK or you won't know .. these are things I wish I knew before I filed. Get references .. talk to other women who are or have gone through a divorce. You have TIME .. NOW is a good time to THINK about what is best for you and your child/ren. This is BUSINESS .. please do what you need to do, find a therapist an atty is not a therapist. WAY too expensive for that.

First thing first .. take care of you .. and making decisions in a height of emotional turmoil is not a good way for me to go.

Big hugs .. S :)

__________________

Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism.  If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown

"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop



~*Service Worker*~

Status: Offline
Posts: 5075
Date:

That sounds like a brilliant idea, I would do that right now, if I were you, you might feel less vulnerable at the hands and mercy of a crazy man. Good for you for reaching out and finding solutions. Im not too clued up on the legal side of things especially in your part of the world, it is much simpler in scotland. Im sending you my love though.x



__________________
PP


~*Service Worker*~

Status: Offline
Posts: 3964
Date:

Great responses.  As best you can, react with no more emotion than you would if he were telling you he just ate a peanut butter and jelly sandwich.  Be cautious of the pre laid legal plans.



__________________

Paula



~*Service Worker*~

Status: Offline
Posts: 938
Date:

Thanks everyone. I have been divorced once before. But my ex filed for it. We went through a Divorce Yourself place and it was very cheap because we agreed on everything. This is not going to be so easy. Makes sense that a lawyer wouldn't call me but they would call another lawyer. I am going to an al anon meeting this morning. Hopefully it will help calm me down.

__________________

Living life one step at a time



~*Service Worker*~

Status: Offline
Posts: 7576
Date:

Lots of prayers and support for you. I do hope your meeting sheds some new light on some new options for you. There is certainly a lot to think about right now.

__________________

"Darkness is full of possibility." Leunig



Veteran Member

Status: Offline
Posts: 71
Date:

My Advice is don't do a thing or hand your money to anyone until you need to.

It doesn't hurt to do a little research now though. I would be seriously hesitant about giving my money to a service like that just make sure you do your homework. It sounds like your issues are complex, and I know nothing about this service of course but my guess would be that you get a different person every time you call. When I was going through my last divorce I would not have wanted to deal with multiple people/ having to re explain things etc. You don't want to get this service then end up having to hire a lawyer anyways. I am just being devils advocate.

The real winners in divorce are the lawyers , try to pound out as many issues as possible with your ex before, even if it is painful. My ex got fixated on a moot point it was costing me thousands and I finally just picked up the phone and called him when I knew he would be sober and we solved it. Suggest looking into a mediator too . Good luck to you

__________________
Page 1 of 1  sorted by
 
Quick Reply

Please log in to post quick replies.