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This evening I had already showered and had on PJs when know there was a knock on the door. My AH rarely answers the door, or the phone or does anything at all around the house, etc. Another knock. I called out, "Can you answer the door? I'm in my pajamas." He did, with a huff (he huggs/sighs a lot), and I hear a woman, I think is our tennat (we rent out our basement). I didn't hear what she said. When the door closed he went out back to go down to their place. He was huffing. I didn't ask what was going on? Can I help? Notta. He came up and down a few times, once carrying a towell, seeminly annoyed he was having to take care of whatever. I heard some yelling but didn't look out the window or door. He was down there about 10 mins.
When he came up he told me the story of a 5-ft. snake being in front of their door and his heroic acts of getting it in a bucket, then taking it across the street and releasing it in the woods.
And I was calm. I didn't feel the need to take care of it, or know what was going on, or anything. I didn't need to know if he was doing it correctly (my way).
One small step for man; one giant step for mankind.
Haha, well done, is it not the best feeling in the world? It was amazing to me that I could let go, live and let live and the world kept on turning, it never all ground to a hault, people figured out their own soloutions , In most cases better than I did for them. This to me is true freedom and this is what convinced me that there is a power greater than me.x
-- Edited by el-cee on Wednesday 2nd of July 2014 03:37:08 AM
To be honest, if I had been here alone, or I had been dressed and answered the door, I am not sure what I would have done. Snakes, in general don't bother me if we are a safe distance from one another. lol! But, I certainly would not want to go catch or kill the snake. (One of the joys of being a landlord). I actually thought about it later and thought, "I could have shot it... but then I would mess up the patio" as I have a 38 special. A little much for a snake I'd say. lol! And since we are in the suburbs, and in city limits I am sure there is a law against discharging a firearm. Oh, all the things that could have gone wrong. lol!
So, I have no idea how I would have handled that. Maybe shooo it away w/ a broom? Glad I didn't have to deal w/ it.
It reminds me of this one truth. I call them circles of faith. Over the 25 years I have walked w/ the Lord I have had situations that have come full circle. Some huge, some not so much So, the next time a situation comes up I remember past circles and say, "Oh, this is nothing compared to that, God will resolve this in His time and it will all work out just fine." But, the most comfort comes from knowing that in EVERY situation I have ever found myself, God has never left me to hang out and dry. He has provided in truly miraculous ways and provided my every need. things I could not see at the time were revealed at the end of the circle, and I was thankful that I did not go ahead of Him. Oh, I still make mistakes, don't we all, but those times when I actually get behind Him, it is always better than my way.
Blessed, Good work. The wisdom of alanon was certainly demonstrated in this amazing example .
Taking care of ourselves, keeping the focus on ourselves, permits others to shine and act responsibly.
A perfect example that our partners are capable of handling problems without our help
