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I got a call this afternoon from the director of the sober living house where my son has been for the last 4 months. Seems he came to the house meeting clearly intoxicated and when they searched his room they found empty bottles, including mouthwash. He was taken to the ER and will be sent to detox. They are willing to give him another chance but I'm sitting here worried and scared.
I had last spoken to him 2 weeks ago and from our conversation I could tell it would just be a matter of time. He was attending the required AA meetings but told me they don't do any good - that the desire to stop drinking has to come from within yourself. Clearly he's not at the point of surrender and I'm afraid he will never be.
I know there isn't a thing I can do but it hurts so bad!
I'm so sorry Rose....I know how you feel inside right now. Ask HP to help you get through this time and hopefully give you a little peace with all that pain that is going on inside. Please try not to worry to much it doesn't work very well to change anything for him or you.
Prayers for your son that he will back to recovery again.
(((( hugs ))))
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Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
You are not alone.. I too understand.. My son too did the same in two sober livings . You are not alone. I am very spiritual.. Many prayers going your way and your sons. They have to want it. My son has been on his mission of disaster and it is very heart breaking. But we too need to take care of us. You very much loved and cared for. We are all here for you.
I'm sorry (((rose))) You're right ... all the alanon in the world and rationalization of why doesn't change the sadness that this time wasn't THE time. He'll know, Rose... him and hp. Don't lose hope. I hope you have f2f that you go to where you can get in person hugs and comforted at this time. My prayers and support go out to you and your son. ((hugs)) TT
-- Edited by tiredtonite on Wednesday 25th of June 2014 09:37:22 PM
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That sucks Rose and another way of looking at this is that "it is a test...only a test" of your recovery. I remember learning the "Oh well" response which I have been using with my relapsing elder son also. I look at his journey and hear some of the gossip and respond "Oh well" and turn him over. I'm powerless and not ready for unmanageability again. the three first steps work out to "I can't, God Can, I'll let Him". I works when you work it. (((((hugs))))) In support.
I had a good day. My daughter and granddaughter came to visit and we went into the city. It was my granddaughter's first ride on the subway (in Boston). We had a nice lunch; rode on the carousel and went to the Frog Pond.
