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my former friend is not as far along as I had hoped for her to be .. she has been relapsing probably on a regular basis .. I really hope and pray that she finds peace in the program .. I remind myself she's going back and there is always hope .. I was right to pull away when I did and allow things to play out. She is risking ALL of her schooling, her family, friends and so on if she continues. Maybe because this is a small town .. it seems that relapse here has a higher rate .. not so many go down the road one time many do not come out of it.
It's her chaos and all I can really do is pray for her .. and she hasn't been calling me to bail her out in terms of walking through detox .. I guess the last time was so bad the question of getting the hospital involved was very much there .. if that happens .. she could loose everything as she hasn't passed her RN test .. I just really hope and pray for her that she gets herself some help .. I would hate to read about her in the paper and have it be work related.
Hugs S :(
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
Kenny .. I think the real difference is for me .. it is easier to see someone else's chaos when her behavior truly doesn't affect me personally .. meaning there is no tie emotionally, while she is my friend and I care for her .. I don't have a long time invested into the friendship .. financially, .. if she keeps her job .. as sad as it would be to watch the spiral .. it doesn't cost me or the kids financially. Mentally .. I don't have much to give only because again .. my priorities at the moment are shifted to the divorce and then the kids after that .. the last thing I have to give is spiritually and that I give freely because it never hurts to pray for someone else .. it's a win win situation .. I can keep family, friends and even strangers in my circle of prayers and it won't hurt anyone or me.
It's a harder line to keep that clear definition when it's a person who directly impacts your day to day living .. sometimes children, mostly spouses, it would be harder if she was a co-worker as well. I don't have to see her daily .. and my definition of a friend is not someone who is lying to me .. if I wanted that I could just stay married! That's a bad joke .. however it is what it is .. as I told my STBAX while he was lying to me calling me his friend .. lol. We have two totally different versions of what friendship really is.
Hugs S :)
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
