im a goldfish - Al-Anon Family Group

el-cee · ~*Service Worker*~

im a goldfish

missmeliss · ~*Service Worker*~

You need probiotics!!!
lol, just kidding

I'm super-awesome at procrastinating recently too. Do you know there is a procrastinators anonymous. They have online meetings like we do. I bet it's actually helpful but it's a pretty funny concept, just what I need, another "important task" to do on the computer when I'm meant to be studying...lol

Hugs. It'll pass!!

el-cee · ~*Service Worker*~

Wow procrastination recovery program, I fit the criteria for lots of these programs, I do want to look at that but I wont just yet until this work is done. Maybe I do need probiotics, are they yoghurts?
Anyway, my daughter is taking my phone and tablet away today, shes not thought of the pc but im not going to say anything just in case the withdrawals are too much. Lol, cunning and baffling!

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi LC actually I can identify and there is an Alanon slogan that identifies that negative self sabotaging tool.

The 3 Ps.: Perfectionism, Procrastination and Paralysis.

I found if I used the serenity prayer before I sat down to a project, acknowledged the 3rd Step, and gave myself permission to not be perfect I could stop self destructive procrastination, It worked

Good luck

SerenityRUS · ~*Service Worker*~

Oh Hotrod I like that I am going to remember those!! Thanks ..

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

I've done the same, el cee, and usually when I'm working on a creative project. I have learned that I need the chaos and the flitting from one thing to another in order for things to "cook" in me. When I become aware that it is necessary for me to put flesh to the bones of my creative project, I am able to carry it out. I can't take the cake out of the oven until its completely baked. I notice that my kitchen can get pretty messy when I'm finding and then mixing all the ingredients, pouring things into the pan, putting it in the oven and waiting for that cake to bake. When I stick the toothpick in the center of the cake and it comes out clean, then I know I can take it out of the oven, let it cool in the pan for a bit, then remove the cake carefully, put it on a plate, ice it and decorate it and look at the finished product that I will be serving to others. My part is done then. I can clean up the kitchen and then turn off the lights on what moved from the idea stage through all the other stages necessary to create the finished product. Being gentle with myself by accepting this flitting from one thing to another, making a mess, etc is really part of the whole creative process and I can actually get it done with more precision and better quality by letting me be me rather than beating up on myself because I'm flitting.

-- Edited by grateful2be on Sunday 22nd of June 2014 09:53:13 AM

el-cee · ~*Service Worker*~

Thank you, Hotrod, I done that and im not kidding I felt as if I was glued to the chair and got through lots, Im having dinner now so not procrastinating in case you were wondering why Im here again!!! That really worked.

Grateful, I wish it was a creative thing, i would maybe enjoy that. I can understand that logical sequence of events, step 3 is it? This work is mind numbing, more endurance, nightmare, Im getting there though.x

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

I've done the same, el cee, with administrative stuff that bores me silly and that I don't enjoy. Then I can get a bit dramatic inside on an emotional level - "Oh, God! I hate this. I don't want to do this. This isn't my forte. Why do I end up with stuff that others could do better than me. This is so tedious. Too much detail. Numbers!!!!!!! I hate numbers!!!!!!!! I'm a people person. I'm not an accountant. Why can't we afford more staff so somebody else can do what I'm clearly not the person to choose for it." Then, I stop and listen. This is what seems to come to me: "Look around. Do you see anybody else who could do this? Do you think you're alone in this? I'll help you." Then, I sit down and just start with the 1st thing that comes to my mind and do it. Takes me what it takes me to finish it and usually that is less time than all the mental and emotional spinning I've allowed myself to endure. I'm not saying this is your thing, el cee, but it sure helped me remember how much effort I've put into resisting something I have to do that reminds me that yes, indeedy, we are certainly a fellowship of equals and those 3Ps will come in handy for me, too. Thanks, Mr. Happy. LOL!

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

Well if there was a procrastinator meeting no one would be able to expect anyone would show up right?

Ok don't hate me, I am the opposite. I need to be at a doc app in 15 min but have to have the house straigtened up, or won't go till everyone is fed, Or i gotta finish cleaning up the porch. I rarely can leave anything undone!

I have this thought in my head if I die then I don't want my house to be a mess...oh sick puppy here!

When I get up, I am thinking about what I get to do today. Paint the porch, mop, groom dogs, read???? I can't wait to do things. when I worked things were dove into to do. If I was done, I went to the office and asked if I could help with anything. I don't put things off cuz it bugs me.

One day at a time, so I do what i have to then get to have time for nothingness~If something is a drag or ickey I want to do it and get it overwith.

Hate getting mail that I need to call them about on Saturday when they are closed!

I had to start not doing the dishes right away, leave some cloths to fold, not make my bed. I was so ocd! When ya have animals I tell ya being ocd and wanting everything super clean would drive anyone mad! lol especially when most my dogs have long hair!

anyhoo you guys made me think! I am weird! I eat while sitting here watching a movie. when I am done I have to put my dishes away and put my watermelon back in fridg or I cannot relax and watch the movie!!!! nutz!

oh dear my mother used to tell me that comparing us to God the creator, we are goldfish! lol

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

LC i am so happy that this little tool worked for you. Love your new avatar It makes me smile.
Speaking of smiling, Deb that is very funny If we had a "Procrastination Meeting " No one would show up AS we would "ALL BE TOO BUSY PROCRASTINATING ".:) What a funny family !!!

el-cee · ~*Service Worker*~

Thank you everyone, ive had a productive day, 3 more to go then I can go back to my meetings, yes, and theres an aa convention with alanon speakers on friday night, cant wait to fill up again. This is such a good place blessed, im not much of a facebooker either, I like like minded people here.x oh debilyn, I laughed at that one too, no one would turn up at procrastination anonymous because they are all procrastinating, lol, belter.x

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