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Lyne


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When I was newer to the board, I read from one of you, if you know the answer to a question, why ask it?  That is good advice.  In a difficult discussion I had with my A last week, I said that I knew she was drinking.  She admitted to drinking.  I can't tell whether the truth makes it better or worse, but either way, it's awful for her, and destructive to us.  But guess what?  She doesn't have a drinking problem, only food!  Gotta love it, Lyne



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Lyne, It is a difficcult path we travel as we attempt to share our lives with the addiction . Yools and prayer worked for me

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LMAO, Lyne, I can remember a time when I said that if I didn't have a kidney problem I wouldn't be in the bathroom snorting cocaine all the time! The sad part of it is that I believed what I was saying at the time, even though there was nothing really wrong with my kidney. Just my nose.

Trust is truth... It just takes some longer than others to own and admit it.

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I have learned the there is value in just leaving something alone .. it took me a LONG time to get there .. partly because I knew if I asked the STBAX .. he wasn't going to tell me the truth .. the other is it's one more thing to deal with that what do I DO with that information now that I have it .. lol.

God always shows me when I need to know and I'm really learning to trust that fact .. all I can do in the meantime is stand quietly in my truth even when I want to shout it to the world and at my STBAX .. would he hear me .. probably not .. John's post made me laugh only because I've sat and watched my STBAX spin stories that he REALLY believes and I know that they aren't true .. in his mind he REALLY believes them .. and at this point I feel sorry for him that he needs those lies in himself in order to just cope with living.

Big hugs .. funny how my perspective has changed about needing to know the truth about something .. sometimes I would rather just not know .. it means I don't have one more thing to deal with ... I also find my needing the truth is more about me being right .. that was something that took a long time for me to admit.

Hugs again S :)

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