Pinkchip! - Al-Anon Family Group

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

Pinkchip!

PP · ~*Service Worker*~

RE: Pink!

neshema2 · ~*Service Worker*~

RE: Pinkchip!

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

I keep waiting for an update and an address to send cards too, eh eh????

Maybe he is afriad we will crash it. Wouldn't that be fun if we could? Is anyone rich in money here who could fund it??? lol lol

PP · ~*Service Worker*~

Oh now I know what you meant! I thought maybe you were gettin' a little giddy with your almost retirement from your current job wink

SerenityRUS · ~*Service Worker*~

I'm at 12 so I'm thinking it's 10?? I wanted an update too!!

Hugs Pink .. can't wait!!

S :)

pinkchip · ~*Service Worker*~

Ok...so it's 16 days. July 5th. My birthday is July 1st. Currently, we are attending to details right and left. We just bought gifts for attendants (which are my 2 sisters and his 2 brothers). Rehearsal dinner menu/arrangements changed some based on costs and what my mom wants lol. The rehearsal dinner is on July 4th so we were hoping to all go out to fireworks after...dunno if that will happen or not. Wedding is looking like there will be about 70 people there. We are doing it all over again here in Florida on August 30th at our own church but Florida is still all assbackwards so it's really only a blessing here, but we wanted to do it because obviously we live here and most of our friends can't just fly up to Maryland for our wedding. We have the tuxes. We are each giving our mother a rose. My sponsor is going to be there :)

Annoying complications: My aunt weaseled out of coming like I knew she would and didn't really want to hear her lame explanation but had to listen to it anyhow cuz she's my only aunt. My partner's mother is trying to find every reason in the world to leave her husband (Partner's stepfather) behind because she doesn't want the hassle of traveling with him. Granted, he is 82 and a little frail but he is not that far gone and it would be really nice since my partner's bio father just died and his stepfather was more like the dad he wanted and a "real dad" to him anyhow. His biodad was an angry drunk (I posted about it a while ago). My partner's brother is headed for divorce and it is exploding all messy right now. That is not great timing but we saw it coming. It is a little odd having a wedding right when he's initiating a divorce.

I am excited. It is something now we are talking about every day. One of our 3 dogs is having major health issues. She is the one with diabetes that we have to give insulin shots to 2 x a day. I hope we don't have to leave her unstable here but...it is what it is. We've been wondering if she was going to live another year for the last 4 years... I am a little nervous, but confident. I don't have any reservations....except feeling like I am not supposed find anyone else attractive since I am about to get married. Kind of like....."well what if Gerard Butler calls me up and wants to do it and now I have to say no because I'm married! Dang!" As if I wouldn't have to say "no" now...hello?!

My partner is working very hard on all of this...right down to documenting it all. It's on chuckandmark.com with pictures and all that and his blogs leading up. Feel free to check it out :) I feel weird asking for anything...not just from you guys but in general....Like I'm not supposed to be all giddy cuz for so long gay people just had civil unions and/or commitment ceremonies, and while those have often been formal and extravagant at times, there was this whole "not a real wedding" thing. I have to keep reminding myself "Whoa! Wait a minute. This is real!" Especially the way we are doing it all formal. Most of our gay friends that have gotten married did it rather informal as it became legal. This is because they have been couples for many years and they did it because they were already essentially married. Chuck and I have been together almost 4 years, but this is still in the timeline of about when you would get married. It is a blessing to be living in this time period when we could have this option right at this time....a regular courtship leading up to a regular wedding.

There was a time not that long ago (almost 6 years ago) that I just wanted to not have chaos and suffering as part of my daily life (due to my own alcoholism and my partner at the time that I split up so I could get sober). I did not expect to ever have this abundant an existence and to be this blessed. I am truly grateful!

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Thanks for the great update, Mark. Prayers and positive thoughts for a beautifiul day and lovely life together.
Please remember that You and your Partner are the most important people on this special day Enjoy every moment.

I will check out the Blog Thanks

SerenityRUS · ~*Service Worker*~

I will check it out as well .. BIG HUGS :) Soooo excited for you and your life partner :)

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

Oh, thank you, Mark. We're family you know, so if there is truly something you need or want - ask. We can't be there and we can be there in a special way. As far as the family dramas - well, you and Chuck have a right to just bleep that all out if you can - and stay focused on you and what each of you have decided to do. This is monumental considering the culture and not only are you getting married, you are doing it in a culture that is turning and has not totally turned. You deserve all the soft love and encouragement and affirmation you can get. Other people's stuff will remain other people's stuff and you both get to celebrate the choices you have made and the beautiful relationship you have both crafted together.

Now, Pink, I'll say this softly, but honey...Gerard will probably never call. I know this information must be sending a dagger to your heart, but...well...we're in recovery. Denial isn't a good place to be on something like this - especially when your betrothed is documenting everything and the plans are all made and the marriage IS going to take place. Perhaps you can find a support group for people waiting for the call that will never come from Hollywood stars? A few short meetings before you get married might be enough to just face the truth, grieve and get on with your real life?

If your aunt can't go, maybe that is a blessing in disguise? As to stepdad - well, maybe that would be, too? No matter who comes or who stays away - you and Chuck are going to have a beautiful experience of doing something you want to do together. And I'm sure we'll all be cheering you on, brother!

Maybe your little gal with the diabetes is feeling stressed? I'll be praying for her, too.

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Cathyinaz · ~*Service Worker*~

WOW Mark you are truly blessed. What a change in life and oh so far you have come. I'm so happy for you and Chuck. It's funny I don't even know you but you seem so close to me.
Funny too......my son's Birthday Day is July 1st. He won't be here to celebrate it but I can pray someday he will be here again.

(((( BIG HUGS )))))

Jill · ~*Service Worker*~

MArk, It's amazing how you've changed in only 6 years. This is inspiring. Congrats on your recovery, your willingness to recover and on your upcoming marriage.

The trip is going to be so good. I hope your partner gets time to blog about it, even if it's after you get back. Best of all wishes to the two of you.

el-cee · ~*Service Worker*~

Ha, love that grateful, I so wanted to know all this too. Thanks pinkchip. Sounds so exciting.x

el-cee · ~*Service Worker*~

I love your page, thats a great idea, you so deserve this.x

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