Hi, Minneha: Welcome to MIP. The question that popped into my head after reading your post is: "Does her father want her to stay with him in the Cape?) The other thing that came to my mind as an al-anon suggestion: "When in doubt, don't." I don't know if you're in Al-Anon? If not, I highly recommend it for any parent whose adult child is using. I do agree that if you owe her money than she is an adult and she can make her own lousy choices. I also understand not wanting to give her the money to leave her friend with all her stuff to dispose of because that doesn't seem right either. I used to help my son earn money by doing yard work for me. I thought it might help him develop some sense of accomplishment with a short term goal while earning money for work. In the end it cost me more than what it was worth to help him earn it. I stopped putting myself in a position where those kinds of issues would come up for me. I also recognized that my son although ill was an adult and so were the friends he chose. It wasn't my job to try to protect his friends. It wasn't my job to help him earn some money either. But it was difficult for me at first to make those decisions for myself - it felt cold to me - and yet in checking my motives, I was making the most loving choices I could for both me and for my son and the people he met. I was living and letting live. Please come back.