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intoit


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Let me preface this by saying I am an artist and have been seriously for over

the last decade.  My creativity has been less than stellar for the last 5 years BUT

Ever since I've been gong to al-anon I have learned so much about
what I was needlessly carrying around with me. 

It is NOT my responsibility and shedding a lot of that sure has given me back myself - well at least some of myself. 

It's amazing when you have a substance abusive son on the path to self destruction how much of that takes up your everyday hinking. 

Your mind is constantly churning things over and how you can help them and what
you can try next to want them to help themselves - when in reality you can help at all you can
only love. 
 
This is a HUGE thing for me to learn.  Now that I have though, it has freed up
a LOT of my mind and my creativity seems to be flowing more freely now that  I can concentrate
on it and not have to worry about things I can't control nor change. 
 
It really is quite liberating
to say the least.  I must let him do what he needs to do and that's all - if he wants to keep
existing like he is I just can't change it....I don't like it any more than I did before, and
it is very sad to watch, but I know now no matter what I do I can't want something more than he does - but that wont' make it

come true - it's HIM that has to want it. 

I'm not saying that I have this totally down pat - but the days I do I sure can get

creative

Thanks for this site and thanks for letting me share. 

I'm a work in progress and I am progressing. 

 

 

 



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Welcome intuit!

I agree - the amount of thinking time I've expended on AH is extraordinary! And I'm loving letting go of that.
For years I have been wanting to paint again, it is one of the reasons I came to Italy, and for one reason or another I just couldn't sit down to it - until this year! I'm loving waking up in the morning and the first thought in my head is about colour and canvas. And I love messing around with my paints because there isn't any thing in my mind at all - just peace! It is lovely to read your description - thank you so much for sharing.

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This is good to read/hear and thanks for posting. I just signed up for an art class (after a few decades of turning my back on myself in disgust) and am looking forward to it. I was so blocked because I spent my every waking moment living my life for someone else! There was no direct link to my creativity because it went through a fuzzy filter of someone else.

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Welcome to MIP Intoit

For you to find the freedom to create is a great in my book. I was so at a loss when I finally quit the constant 24/7 thinking about my son. I didn't know what to do and I was sad about that. I still have a problem with finding ways to take care of me but I am better. I'm a work in progress.

There are many here with son's and daughters with addictions so you keep coming back here because you are not alone and the ESH is the best.

((( hugs )))



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What a beautiful first share!

I am so glad you are removing that muck so you can find your energy to feel creative! Yes you are on the right path. The A has to make their own choices, if we get involved in their disease, we make it so much worse. They have to fall to get back up!

He will feel lots lighter too knowing you are ok no matter what he does. That burden on the A is very hard on them, they feel more guilt than they can handle!

It's wonderful to hear how you are following Al Anon. Getting Them Sober by Toby rick drew volume one is an excellent book. It sure helped me!!! Amazon sells used ones for about nothing!

HOpe to see you keep coming!



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Welcome intuit     Love your log on name and the wisdom that you shared . You are not alone and by attending alanon face to face meetings you will find  the support and understanding that you need to continue your recovery.

Please keep coming back and connecting.



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intoit


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many thanks to each and every one of you - I do attend meetings here at home and have been for the last 3 months or so - I have one tonight and look forward to them now instead of dread them...I feel I'm making progress and I don't want to stop 'cause it just feels so darned good! again, thanks to everyone here and I hope you all the best - I'll be back for sure - and hopefully in just as positive a mood....I refuse to be negative any more - it's just too wearing lol

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