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I was just emailing my sponsor, and realized that for years, I think I begged my spouse to spend time with me. Her priorities were never our marriage, and it is with the help of alanon, that I am breaking my codependency on her. Not that I will be great at this anytime soon, but I know that I can, actually I will, have a great Sunday whether I have time with her or not. This is truly a blessing for me. Not perfection, but definate progress! All of you have a great day too! Lyne
Now this might be a little contentious, but I count myself lucky to have read an article in my early days of researching that took the point of view that the codependency movement was wreaking healthy marriages. In other words I discovered codependency through the back door so to speak. I don't think that AH and I have a healthy marriage so learning about codependency has helped me a lot, but I do think that my friends in healthy marriages have a degree of co-dependency between them, and it looks rather nice! It is also peppered with a healthy dose of independence as well, which looks even better. Being able to adapt to our circumstances is a gift and definitely progress
but I know that I can, actually I will, have a great Sunday whether I have time with her or not. This is truly a blessing for me. Not perfection, but definate progress! All of you have a great day too! Lyne
now THAT is what i call good progress.....good 4 you...
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Live and let live and do it with peace and goodwill to all!!!!
Lyne, I begged my AH to spend time with me all the time. It's not a way to live. Now that I moved out, he wants to spend more time with me. Funny how that works!!
