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Wednesday's client whom i have been killing myself to clean up his books, teach his off. mgr. how to cover him b/c he is so irresponsible, well Wed. was a hay maker
i never approved of him buying the office building he got b/c it isn't a good "cash cow" the debt he owes for the rent he is potentially able to get just does not cut it....now we are trying to get his prop. taxes lowered...i took pictures, i wrote a cover letter w/over 40 pictures showing the tax assessment board that this is a "potential" investment property with about 100k worth of repairs needed...i know alone that roof is an easy 40k
anyway, i only got them to lower the est. value by 100k...not enough......this client has a champagne eye, but he has a beer pocket if ya know what i mean.......off. mgr. and i get along great and we were both thinking out loud, in private in our office how if he over loads himself, he could go under....
i told her that his contract on this building is a "year to get out " he only loses monthly payments made and prorated taxes.....I told her to try and get him to cut his losses b/c IF he sticks w/it, he is gonna have a 15 yr. note, NO EARLY PAYOFF b/c they want that huge interest, so i told her, he is over loaded in debt.....get out and rent....build up and buy something he can at least make rent equalling his mortgage......
anyway, i am "forecasting" thinking "oh crap, here go our jobs" and the "what ifs" and the "awfulizing" "predictions of a job loss" all that crap and I caught myself up short and realized that
TODAY i am ok
TODAY my bills are current
TODAY i am making enough to care for me
TODAY my animals are ok
TODAY TODAY TODAY I will staple that to my head
its hard when one is so fear based to fight off the fears and projections, but ya know what??? I am sick of worrying about crap that has nto happend yet......TODAY I am OK and i am gonna let the chips fall where they may
I will renew my ad....maybe re-do it, with a "fresher" look......get on linked in and network with some of my connections.......and do my best........quit worrying about stuff that has not happened and may NOT happen.......i have an idea for this client...i bounced it off off. mgr. and she loved it...she is almost like a partner w/him, they have been friends 4ever...she loved my idea where they repair personal property, like washing machines, dryers, microwaves, hot water heaters....anything in the home.....I told "V" "hey why dont we talk *C* into starting up a home warranty thingy" where the customer pays a (we can price around what other companies do) premium of sorts to "insure" their stuff and we go out and repair their stuff under this warrantee thing.....she liked the idea.....next Wed. i am gonna see what she thinks about hitting him up w/the idea.....it wouldn't take an investment, not really, and its money coming in, not this huge debt he is in with this building he paid waaaay too much for
anyway, my slogans.......ONE DAY AT A TIME...........EASY DOES IT.....
-- Edited by neshema2 on Friday 6th of June 2014 09:35:56 PM
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Live and let live and do it with peace and goodwill to all!!!!
You are one smart gal, N. My eyes roll back in my head when I look at numbers. I force myself to do it and read the fine print. I hope the idea takes off for everyone. The reminder to stay in today was such a help to me right now. Thank you. Thank you.
LOL N what a reminder of what I use to do until I learned how to have a soft grip on things I use to clutch closely to me and become overly responsible for. My clients are my clients and own their own choices. When and if I am included in on the plan I give my very best ESH and then loosen my grip. The outcome is a consequence of their choice for solution and they have to own it. I am grateful for the program which taught me how to keep my hands open and off of things I had no control or power over. Loose grip means for me I can "Let go and Let God" have it and bring my hands back to myself empty. Al-Anon always warned me about giving advice and that was one warning I most needed. Right now I will continue to Let go and Let God. (((((hugs)))))
LOL N what a reminder of what I use to do until I learned how to have a soft grip on things I use to clutch closely to me and become overly responsible for. My clients are my clients and own their own choices. When and if I am included in on the plan I give my very best ESH and then loosen my grip. The outcome is a consequence of their choice for solution and they have to own it. I am grateful for the program which taught me how to keep my hands open and off of things I had no control or power over. Loose grip means for me I can "Let go and Let God" have it and bring my hands back to myself empty. Al-Anon always warned me about giving advice and that was one warning I most needed. Right now I will continue to Let go and Let God. (((((hugs)))))
((((Jerry)))) OMG, I needed to read this............."Soft grip" yea, that really resonates....like off. mgr. was like "what can we do???" so i esh'd her, and was asked to fight the taxes, so I did, but was mentally holding on w/a "channel lock" grip and not the soft grip.......i was asked....i gave her my esh.....and i need to re-read your post here when i start the "control thing" so i can LET GO----LET GOD.......Mahalo , my friend
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Live and let live and do it with peace and goodwill to all!!!!
Ah! It's so difficult to get into that mindset, especially since we are bombarded with "How on-target are YOU for retirement?!" from the TV and internet all the time. And then there are insurance ads - because heaven knows it's all just going to come crashing down any day now and none of us is prepared. (eye roll)
So yes, good idea Neshema, to staple it to our foreheads! LOL
