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So I had a little bit of a scare last night. I had to phone the ambulance for my three year old. He had asthma as a baby. Well he ended up with croup. However because of the asthma he gets terrified he cannot breathe. He was screaming. Well of course I got a little emotional so good thing my safety training kicked in and I remembered do not drive emotional. It is the highest times of accidents.
Just a good reminder why I need a safety plan. Kind of like a practice run.
Anyway they got him an épée (?) shot and it turned out good.
Thank you everyone. I did notice something else I do and the paramedics kept correcting me and saying it is better to over-react than under-react. I kept apologizing for overreacting. Not really sure what that means yet but I am aware of it now.
My daughter had the same thing as a toddler young child and I learned a trick with her was to get her focus off her breathing issues and focus on something else while I could get everything ready be it a trip to the dr or a breathing treatment.
So I would start a story about rainbow unicorns and just kind of go from there, it was just a safe place that I would continue the story with soothing things for her .. hers was kittens, puppies and unicorns .. lol .. and she would just calm her breathing .. I think she was probably 4 when these issues came into full force. Anyway, she created her own safe place to go when the breathing issues got really scary for her and it's actually something she does now from time to time with the anxiety issues she's had in the past. Her therapist laughed when we had talked about it. Anyway, I found it extremely important that I remain calm during those situations because she definitely took her cues from me in terms of was she going to be ok .. and the answer was of course she was.
I'm so glad your son was ok .. that is scary stuff.
Hugs S :)
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My son only had croup. He didn't have asthma. Yet, it was scary for me. I can remember putting him in his little infant seat and driving on winter night's because he seemed to be able to breathe better then. I'd also sit with him in the bathroom on my lap in a steamed up bathroom for 15 minutes and put his vaporizer on in his room. I think I slept on the floor next to his bed for 3 to 4 nights at a time off and on for two years. They didn't give steroids then. When my grandson developed croup as an infant, I was sure I was going to find an air mattress to put next to his crib on the nights my daughter had to work, but "No." They gave steroid shots then and what a difference! I felt so helpless when he was having trouble breathing. It sounds like maybe you do, too, at times? Good that you could stay calm. It was very hard for me to do. I'd never experienced a baby with croup before my son.
Oh I felt extremely helpless. That is why I knew I had to just call the ambulance for help. I just could see the terror in his eyes. I think now that I know the feeling of terror. It is harder for me to respond. I will keep trying. I use to just be able to think through things easier.
(((T))) It takes time. We do get better and some things truly are terrifying - especially when it is our child who is having trouble breathing and if you're like me - we have no previous experience with it and nobody is there to turn to at the time. As I see this, you did do what you needed to do and maybe that was your HP guiding you? You did just fine, Truth. You cared for him. You recognized when you were over your head and you called for the right people. That sounds like thinking it through to me.
-- Edited by grateful2be on Saturday 7th of June 2014 09:14:46 PM
