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DavidG


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I learned to speak, and I learned to speak for myself...

I went through a long periods where I had so much to say... but in recent times this has slowed down, thankfully... biggrin

In m first years I really wanted to reach out and help people who shared. I was one of those who really wanted to do my 12th step first! biggrin

I found that by coming back that 19 times out of 20 people would keep sharing and create their own solutions... these were much better ones than anything I could dream up!

Often things I said seemed out of whack- but I had to put it out there to grow, and mature... progress, not perfection. smile

DavidG. aww



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I hear you David... I'm still a newbie here and have so much to learn.

Thanks you for your service and giving us the hope we need

One day at a time....


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Dave what a great share!!!! Just what the doctor ordered for me today.

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I remember doing that too Dave...must have been in the same rooms as you only working a different section...lol   Those people also arrived at their own solutions with a Higher Power greater than I.  I was amazed and ....out of work so I had to work on myself.    Thanks for the memories (((hugs))) smile



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DavidG wrote:

 

I learned to speak, and I learned to speak for myself...

I went through a long periods where I had so much to say... but in recent times this has slowed down, thankfully... biggrin

In m first years I really wanted to reach out and help people who shared. I was one of those who really wanted to do my 12th step first! biggrin

I found that by coming back that 19 times out of 20 people would keep sharing and create their own solutions... these were much better ones than anything I could dream up!

Often things I said seemed out of whack- but I had to put it out there to grow, and mature... progress, not perfection. smile

DavidG. aww

 omg , david, me too....i was the one who had to dive in and esh and help everyone.....now i can listen better....also say my piece and then drop it....like last night....i went "round" on it, but decided this am, i said all i am gonna say.....time to detach if i don't agree and move on in PEACE...thanks for being here, David...



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I think im there David, still feeling the need to be heard and at times the need to be right!!! But, Im a work in progress and Im trying to slow it down instead of rushing for Step 12.x

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I think that many of us who have been blessed with the character defect of compulsive caretaking (old survival skill for us ACs) bring it with us into the room at first. Yet the wisdom of the rooms (and of HP who lives in the rooms) eventually brought my view back to my side of the street.

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1911A1 wrote:

I think that many of us who have been blessed with the character defect of compulsive caretaking (old survival skill for us ACs) bring it with us into the room at first. Yet the wisdom of the rooms (and of HP who lives in the rooms) eventually brought my view back to my side of the street.

 Thanks y'all for your responses... some of us have history... we know each other and our lives in a way our families could not ever imagine.

1911- this bring sweet fresh spring tears to ma eyes... I desperately needed to be loved and needed... and that was the only way I knew how... I felt that is I loved and cared enough someone, one day would see the person I am... aww



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I am still on step 7 been there for a few years.

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Oh David that just reminded me of what my sponsor taught me. Gosh I miss her, however I think my HP new it was time to do it on my own.

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I tried rushing to step 12 as well.

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neshema2 wrote:

 omg , david, me too...

 

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I still think when you ask your HP for a teacher the teacher magically appears. That is the miracle of this program and I am so fortunate to have it in my life. Bless all of you!!!!

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I still think when you ask your HP for a teacher the teacher magically appears. That is the miracle of this program and I am so fortunate to have it in my life. Bless all of you!!!!

 Hey,,, yay! This a part of the magic of the boards... sometimes we end up talking with each other in real time... it does create a real bond- and trust and affection only the programme can give us all... smile



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el-cee wrote:

I think im there David, still feeling the need to be heard and at times the need to be right!!! But, Im a work in progress and Im trying to slow it down instead of rushing for Step 12.x

 oh el-cee you are so not alone on this post......same here, but workin on slowin it down...doin better



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I think im there David, still feeling the need to be heard and at times the need to be right!!! But, Im a work in progress and Im trying to slow it down instead of rushing for Step 12.x

 Oh yes... biggrin I think,in the end, we find ways of leaning each other... take each other's weights for a time... share our hopes and dreams... smile



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