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When you think that it won't get worse in terms of watching someone self destruct they manage to surprise you and yes it does .. what sucks is when it can affect the kids and myself. STBAX just got another judgment against him which means that he could wind up getting fired from his job. I know that there are others that are coming down the pipe. Originally when we started the divorce I had asked him about filing for a bankruptcy. At this point our credit is so bad it won't make a difference and we would have a better chance of rebuilding going forward individually. Plus it would be nice for me not to be attached to his garbage. Anyway, his response was no, he had less years ahead of him .. so that wouldn't work for him .. ugh. I wish he had listened or at least been open minded enough to consider it even. Sad part is that like I said .. this is the beginning of the flood gates for him and it's not going to get better. It's probably why he moved home as well .. I'm just glad the kids and I aren't a part of this .. it's just sad to watch him try drown himself. Literally and figuratively.
I really don't know what my options are and I'm considering filing myself however I will have to wait until the divorce is finalized at this point. Here's hoping that things are going to be settled in the next few weeks. I'm barely hanging on as is .. and it will be ok .. I'm just kind of tired and frustrated at this point.
Some people are their own worst enemies.
Hugs S :)
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
I feel for you. Financial worries is not what you need on your plate with everything else going on. I'm feeling the pinch right now and it is making me upset..I can just imagine what your going though.
I pray things will get better for you so you can have a little peace.
((( hugs )))
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
Somehow .. I'm sooo blessed .. I know this without question .. God really works it all out .. I did something very stupid and now I'm paying the price so to speak. It will pass it just means a lot tighter on the budget.
I had a girlfriend of mine make a similar comment Cathy and we laughed, I told her you know .. I can't let it keep me up at night .. getting the divorce finalized would get a huge monkey off of my back .. something that Alanon has taught me and I'm a slow learner is don't just do something hurry up and sit there and that's where I'm at .. if he wants to take action let him call HIS atty and wrack up his bill. I just have avoided calling mine unless he requests something from me. It was an expensive lesson learned .. now I've got it. Unless he turns in his financials .. nothing is moving forward and to complicate matters he hasn't done the dang parenting class .. soooo even if he actually turns in his financials .. we will still have to wait for him to complete his class to get divorced THAT'S how much I'm holding up the divorce .. LOL, I'm the one holding it up .. LOL.
Hugs, S :)
PS - I have been praying for everyone as much as I can daily .. your son crosses my mind often as I deal with my STBAX .. thank you for being here and reminding me that there are mother's and father's on the other side of this awful disease.
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
Thank you Serenity.. We will take it one day at a time, practice our program and live life on life's terms. We will do what is needed to take care of us and pray for peace and happiness.
Serenity prayer said every morning before I even get out of bed.
((( hugs )))
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
