Patience. - Al-Anon Family Group

sunshine23 · Veteran Member

Patience.

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

Loved this humble and candid share, Sunshine. I needed to read this this morning, too. Blessings, friend.

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Great awareness Sunshne You are going deeper and growing.
Good work

KennyFenderjazz · ~*Service Worker*~

I also needed to hear that this morning. Funny how a good meeting can overflow and affect other people who didn't even attend!

Kenny

milkwood · ~*Service Worker*~

I love the way that you have linked patience with expectations - I do the same thing when I have expectations and they aren't fulfilled, it is a certain look that I give which says 'is it me or are you being a bit slow on the uptake here?!' Now you've pointed the link out I can see that this is impatience. So much to learn. Thank you for sharing.

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

Any lesson on patience is a good one for me because I just don't like the powerful negative reactions I have when things (all of them) don't go my way. My sponsor taught me if I don't like the outcomes of practicing frustration, intolerance and expectations, practice the opposite and get better consequences. The opposite is patience. Mahalo Sunshine ((((hugs)))) smile

el-cee · ~*Service Worker*~

I can relate, impatience has been a shortcoming of mine too. I was always in a hurry and would be short tempered, I can still be like that but mainly with myself. I am very careful to not be impatient with my grown kids because that is part of my amends to them for the years of being impatient. I think there is a deeper reason for me anyway. I think it was part of me trying to control the uncontrollable, in a hurry to fix the way I was living, in a kind of constant panic, rushing but getting nowhere. Now, im much calmer, I try to think of the slogans to bring my mind to a calm place like how important is it or easy does it. I can still be impatient but im getting better.x

neshema2 · ~*Service Worker*~

el-cee wrote:
I can relate, impatience has been a shortcoming of mine too. I was always in a hurry and would be short tempered, I can still be like that but mainly with myself. I am very careful to not be impatient with my grown kids because that is part of my amends to them for the years of being impatient. I think there is a deeper reason for me anyway. I think it was part of me trying to control the uncontrollable, in a hurry to fix the way I was living, in a kind of constant panic, rushing but getting nowhere. Now, im much calmer, I try to think of the slogans to bring my mind to a calm place like how important is it or easy does it. I can still be impatient but im getting better.x

me 2....waiting for long for my life to improve, its like I want it NOW...instant gratificaation....well life does not work that way,...sometimes i just have to WAIT and there is nothing i can do about it.......this all smells of the first 3 steps......when it is out of my hands, it is not out of the hands of the source....so why not let go, release me from fighting/forcing it and make my life calmer, LOL

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

Your hp is working NOW. Everyday is precious. I honestly do not live the word wait. I want to live now, enjoy now. Even if it is only getting into nature.

I would be making each night a special one or each day. I would like friday to be pizza night.

saturday we make cookies for the week.

go pick wildflowers to put into the house. Go overnight camping out of the car or pick up.

Now I am not waiting. LIving, was hard at first as I honestly thought I would be in Louisiana and married.

but now I am loving my dogs horse, pigs, toroise...all of them. Love my neighbor friends too. Took my older couple neighbors eggs yesterday.

My chickens are on eggs and we have 11 babies. I have no idea what they are! lol all I know is they are cute.

I use a coffee grinder to grind up the regular chicken food and bird seed, and cat food. then they love grapes and stuff. I put them in this neat pen outside with their banty mums.

When we live each moment, we stop waiting. We have no idea when or if things are going to happen. I like to go on with my little life.

'hugs!

Truth · ~*Service Worker*~

This is so interesting. Practice the opposite. I know you won't believe right now but I honestly use to have the patience of a saint. I still do with my son. I was so slow to anger to the point I made myself unsafe. Just in February I finally got mad. Darn mad.

I could never figure out before why people didn't just choose to be happy and patient. I get it now. Hmmm that is interesting.

Truth · ~*Service Worker*~

I was so naive I seriously thought most people's lives were like my childhood where my dad sang on the top of his lungs "go tell it on the mountain" and my mom and dad danced in the living room.

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