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mercedes1959


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Hello fellow alanoners - Today I really felt like I turned a big corner. For the past 8 months, everyone here and in the chat meetings have listened to me complain about my co worker. Today, I feel like I turned a big corner in detachment. I can't even tell you what she wore today. She has been the elephant in the living room, except it's my office. I have been working so hard on detachment. Several here have made comments, like what are your fears? Wow, she really gets under your skin....and last night someone told me to leave the job before it got violent. Today, I was very firm in a boundary I set and I told her it was no longer up for discussion, which ended the conversation. It's amazing because we have been having those "confusing" conversations, I really feel like I am talking to an alcoholic when I talk to her. Today, it worked. I am no longer afraid of her. I just have to stand up and be firm. Amazing what fear can do to you. Now, I don't feel the fear. My boss wants to lay her off. It's up to him, today I really don't care.....it's a great feeling....

 

Thanks for listening



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grateful2be


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Thank you for sharing the outcome of your awareness, acceptance and guided action, Mercedes. It made me smile.

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neshema2


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WOW....love to hear happy endings or resolutions, LOL.....good job!!!!!



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andromeda


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Good for you!! Standing up for ourselves and not saying it mean, but meaning what we say is how we work our program!

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Cathyinaz


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Good job.....nice when we take action with kindness but firm action.


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Truth


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Good job!! Direct and to the point. I am happy for you.

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milkwood


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Brava! It is a great feeling. Enjoy the freedom.

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I will file that post under "It works when you work it"  see they told me so.   Mahalo for the affirmation of it.   ((((hugs)))) smile



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el-cee


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Sometimes the need to detach is there with everyone, im glad you have got thay tool, its one of my favourites. Sometimes im hyper sensitive to people in work and I need to make an effort to not analyse or judge them and their way of doing things. Live and let live is a good one for me to remember.thanks for sharing.x

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So glad you didn't give up! I learned a big boundary for me was to mean what I say, say what I mean and not say it mean and when I do it, it leaves no room for discussion. It is easy to give your power away and over explain things, until you decide you own your own power and end of discussion means just that. Proud of you! Sending you love and support!

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