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I want to thank you all for being a support to me .. I just wanted you all to know. Everything I ever said here was the truth I never fabricated my home living with my Ah. Again the RO still not working for me .. My a AH who I am divorcing has every one of mine cry for help or any chance recovery been photo copied .i know I can not read his post unless I'm on the AA side . He has made a alaon profile and made copy's of every thing I said and every ones name and profile . What he plan to do with it most likely expose all.. He has got worst he is not done harming me and he has not made him self healthy. I find it hard to trust anyone , he has violated my freedom of speach and any one on here.. I came on this sight thinking I could have trust and able to heal when I'm fact all he did was protrad me . I am not looking for a miricle since one does not exist .i speak the truth .. He is worst than before his maniplating ways has cause me to be unhealthy more now than ever. I no that no one can make you do something you don't want to do , but when you been told your nothing and name calling it's hard to see anything other wise . All I want is my life back or try to start a new life .. If I new how to close my acct I would do so .. But again that's what theAH wants me to do . He HATES alaon HE HATES that it gives me a back bone to stand up to him... For a man to want to see his wife get better would not dislike the fellowship she is in . After all I most likely not be here if it wasn't for his Drinking .. I love you all for ESH you all have given me .i put alaon to work everyday I am true to myself I have no reason not to be . But he needs to stop hurting me .. Please please help me try to get him out of my head he is nothing but a fog and distorts my thinking
John will help you with this wisdom, if he is or has done this then john could help you im sure. I think its so important to protect your anonymity. Would it help to make another account, no pictures, no announcements, you could pm people letting them know who you are. Dont isolate yourself if you can help it.x
Hi, Wisdom: This is what I believe - that all things can be worked for good by HP. If what you have written is the truth on a public message board, then it is and nothing can destroy the truth. As far as my responses to you - there is nothing in them that I would feel could harm me no matter how much paper is wasted in copying it. If the RO applies to you and the distance he must keep in relationship to you, then going to f2f meetings could be a safer and more anonymous method of healing for you than posting on a public board? That way, you can call for help and have the boundaries enforced by the proper authorities?
Do not let anyone destroy your fellowship here or anywhere else. I know who he is so I'm sorry that this is happening to you. I pray there is something you will be able to do to stop this madness and you both can move on and not destroy the help and programs you both seek.
Asking for help is your best bet and I pray you will find it.
((( hugs )))
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
Wisdom I am glad that you had the courage to post and share your pain. Please remember that alanon suggests that we keep the focus on ourselves, and live one day at a time trusting HP. Please continue sharing here and at your alanon meetings You are not alone
By the way I am not fearful that he has copied any of my responses to you so please do not worry. You are powerless over him -- Take care of you.
