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Gaby


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So today I get a phone call from my sons car dealership they said his vehicle is out for repo. I told them I don't know what is going on I have had no communication with him. They said well we got the car. I know these people personally. So the lady said that repo guy found my son sleeping in the car and he told my son they are there to repo it. My son said let me get a few things and he did and walked away. So now he is on foot. He has been down this road twice. I keep telling myself if he wants the help he will go to every extreme to get the help. His car was his sleeping place. My son knows he does not need to live that way, but he made that choice right? I pray god keeps his healing hands over him and my son soon surrenders. I don't believe he has been going to see his daughter. But I am now fighting for my grandparent visits. His babies mom keeps calling me. I can not talk to her. She always throws in my face what I already know what my son chose to do with his life right now. I pray my son surrenders. But I know I have no control of him. He can get help if he truly wants it. I don't want to feel bad for him. But I'm his mother. He lost his job lost his car lost his only roof over his head. Possibly will lose his rights to his visits to his daughter . How much of a bottom does he want to hit. Many prayers needed.

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(((( warm hug ))))

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Debilyn


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gaby I invite you to think about, he is alive, he is taking care of himself. He can walk. As you said it is up to him to go to a shelter, AA, where ever.Those are all available.

Sometimes it helps to remember the things that are ok. Bottom? I don't know where you are but at least it is spring and summer is coming. Hopefully he will make some decisions before winter.

So one day at a time for you and him! He knows you love him, that is important too.

You are a good mom, debilyn



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(((Gaby))) so very sad. Prayers

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(((Gaby)))

i sometimes feel that that the world is bottomless.  How far down does a person have to go.  I suppose until they reach their own personal bottom.

 

sending much love and support. 



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I understand, Gaby. What if we remember together that there is no place our children go where their HP isn't? The same air that we breathe, the same ground that supports us, the same water, the same sunshine, the same shade for us that can be found under trees all exist for our children, too. There is more to support your son's existence than not. If your HP can feed the birds of the air, than S/He can feed your son, too. Not just food for his stomach but food for his soul. You know that he is alive and going through hard times. You are also alive and going through hard times. And still there is encouragement and support for you. Surely, there is encouragement and support for your son, too.



-- Edited by grateful2be on Thursday 29th of May 2014 08:11:24 PM

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The night my son left his fathers in his car drunk I didn't call him to beg him not to drive and I will come get him. I didn't call... I prayed he wouldn't kill himself or anyone else. I didn't call the police but I prayed he would be safe. He wasn't 15 minutes from his dad's house getting gas. My son's car has headlights that automatically come on when you start the car unless you turn them off. I guess my son did this by mistake because as he was pulling out of the gas station the police stopped him for no headlights on. I prayed for his HP to take care of him.....his HP did. He was arrested for his 3rd DUI and now will know the consequences of his choices. He has lost everything and is so far in debt every lawyer and collection agency is looking for him. Will this be his bottom. Will 2 years in prison be his bottom. I don't know I can only pray he will choice recovery over a life of prison stays or death.

I am grateful he's where he at right now and I pray this is what God intended for him to get dry enough to realize what he's doing with his life but is my hope not his.

Prayers Gaby for you and your son that he will come to terms with his disease and seek help or will sleep on the streets tonight. Like Pickchip said to me one time.....it just might what he needs right now.

((( hugs ))) you are not alone.

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