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Mari1978


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I would like to thank all those who have shared experiences on what we can do to be supportive.

My 7 year old is ever challenging and her genetics scream her father quite often. After a difficult day  and feeling exhausted and a little weak I dialed her bio dads number. I didn't know why I bothered I didn't expect he would answer. The pattern of the addiction is only progressively more fatal each time.  He answered. He was puzzled and questioned how it was at that moment I would randomly call. It was a bad day, far much worse for him. (That was my message from my HP that calmed me with my current situation with my daughter. Hope is much more prevalent and I felt the warmth and comfort....an oh ya moment.)

We are able, through the help of the fellowship of Alanon, to recognize the disease and its method of capturing its victims. Thank God for Alanon and Alanon for God. I no longer feel any need to "rescue" anyone. These days I ask my God to guide me and give me strength and courage to do what is needed. I let ex speak and my response was that I would come pick him and his stuff up but it would only to bring him to a detox centre and then I would support him if he continued to seek the help he needed. Its not me that is able to help him. Apparently his mother gave him the same message......I asked him if maybe something somewhere may be trying to tell him something and he is still asking the same question and expecting a different answer. I trust in the greater good. Regardless of the outcome. It will be what it is meant to be. I am free of guilt.

I do not own the tools to fix him! My tools in my toolbox I gather along my journey. I can share knowledge and share what works for me but others need to find their own tools that work for them. Go get your own! I have this vision of handing everyone in my past I met all my personal tools in my toolbox till there is nothing left.

Ever tried to tighten a 10mm bolt with a 16mm wrench?

Sending you all much love and support on your journey!

It works if you work it!

 



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Debilyn


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thank you, this is a wonderful share of progress!

It's a good example to others how the program works. hugs! debilyn



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KennyFenderjazz


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When you try to tighten a 10mm bolt with a 16mm wrench you end up with bruised knuckles!!biggrin



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hotrod


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Powerful inspiring share Mari.
Keep up the good work.



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Mari...Mahalo for that share and while reading it I could hear the old Al-Anon message of "when the student is ready the teacher arrives".  Recovery higher ed...Thank you.  (((((hugs))))) smile

 

You said it comfortably, confidently...very good on you.

 



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