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Today I got a message from my son saying : many prayers needed. I responded : I will always have you in prayers and giving you to god is healthy for me as well as yourself. I know my son is going through a lot but I can't do nothing for him that he can not do for himself. I have turned him over to god. I have so much faith that god will take care of him . I have to let me have peace for my health for my daughter and my parents. God bless.
God will take care of him if he lets God. But that is out of your hands. Just wanted to clarify, faith in God is good, but other's have to let God work for them. I didn't want you to blame God if your son willfully refuses to let God work in his life through making bad choices and doing drugs. My faith in God is not going to stop others from making mistakes, relapsing, or dong bad things. To truly let go to me means accepting that my faith works for me but others have to build their own and have their own program in order to achieve serenity and the positive outcomes that come along with having faith. You only need faith that God will take care of you and that God's will for your son depends on his relationship with God and that has nothing to do with you. It is good to have hope that your son will have a divine moment of clarity and really get back into working a program but you can life your life, and let your faith be strong regardless of whether good or bad things are happening with your son.
When I let go and let god, I have faith that my higher power will only give me what I can deal with so I think that means looking after my son whether hes making bad choices or not. It can be through these bad choices the hard life lessons are learned, I consider these part of the bigger picture in which my hp is in control of, which i believe is his hp too. When I think of my hp, its always been in my life, long before I realisef it. Its the same for my son too. God was taking care of me before I let him, I can see that now. Ive just became conscious of him. It helps to visualise my son being wrapped in a duvet and ask my hp to please look after him.x
-- Edited by el-cee on Monday 19th of May 2014 04:58:01 PM
I am trying to do the same after many tries and I know I will succeed this time, otherwise, I will bring myself down also. There is nothing else to do but let go and let God. Thank you for sharing. Pam
