How do you deal with the internet? - Al-Anon Family Group

lookingup · ~*Service Worker*~

How do you deal with the internet?

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

Trust your gut, LU.

PP · ~*Service Worker*~

Yes, trust you gut. I am hoping that the ESH that has been provided already has been beneficial? I want to be more direct here without being offensive. An al anon meeting asap would be where I would go.

-- Edited by PP on Sunday 18th of May 2014 08:21:34 PM

el-cee · ~*Service Worker*~

If it looks like a duck then its probably a duck. Hes done it before so he probably is cheating or is getting ready to. Hes an alcoholic so hes not truly yours anyway, he belongs to the call of hjs own impulses whether its drink or women, whats the difference? The chances of him being committed for long is slim and in my experience if you want an alcoholic youve got him. Hes not going to confess either, hes seeking the company of other women in some form or other, how much evidence do you need? You knkw what hes doing, what are you going to do?

neshema2 · ~*Service Worker*~

PP wrote:
Yes, trust you gut. I am hoping that the ESH that has been provided already has been beneficial? I want to be more direct here without being offensive. An al anon meeting asap would be where I would go.

-- Edited by PP on Sunday 18th of May 2014 08:21:34 PM

agree...we told you all we could....i would get into a meeting and find a sponsor and get into the 12 steps....when we waste our time in bad relationships, there is an underlying reason in our past, or our beliefs about ourselves that is behind it...i settled for unhealthy people , too becuz I was unhealthy , until i got into alanon and worked on me....now the price to my heart has risen....only the healthy need apply....wasn't always that way....

Breakingfree · ~*Service Worker*~

If you are bothered enough to post about it, maybe you should trust your instincts and realize you may be having some major red flags about this. You can't change an A, but you can get yourself to meetings and take good care of you. Sending you love and support on your journey!

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

Trust your intuition. Also of course you do not believe him. He was online with her,now they made sure they can contact each other by giving numbers out.

Myself it is me and no one else or bye. Not worth the drama. I don't believe anyone loves their mate if they are playing with someone else. that is disrespectful.

I would not do that to the man I loved, no way.

hugs honey!

neshema2 · ~*Service Worker*~

Debilyn wrote:
Trust your intuition. Also of course you do not believe him. He was online with her,now they made sure they can contact each other by giving numbers out.
Myself it is me and no one else or bye. Not worth the drama. I don't believe anyone loves their mate if they are playing with someone else. that is disrespectful.
I would not do that to the man I loved, no way.
hugs honey!

Spot on Deb....this is NOT worth the pain......and yea, "its me and no one else or bye"......and this is a "no 2nd chance" deal...if i cannot trust??? I am GONE!!!

KennyFenderjazz · ~*Service Worker*~

If you don't trust someone then you don't trust someone. Trust is such a basic need in a relationship, and notice that you can only *give * trust. In our first step we declare that we are powerless over alcohol and our alcoholics. But notice that our trust is something we *do* have power over. That's where we have to use our gut instinct and feelings. What you do when the trust is gone is up to you. Al anon can help with that, meeting with people in similar circumstances that you find are trustworthy can help you start to trust your feelings again.

Kenny

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