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Well had my mediation session. I at least got the court order to read police enforced. I was going to tell Pink that I don't think he is using but he is reserving himself for a relapse I think. He is dating a huge drinker. I also got the impression he is dating her because he is mad about the boundaries. I sensed some passive aggressive behavior going on there.
Glad you were able to process what you wanted and to receive it during your mediation session. Hopefully, nothing will need to be police enforced and yet you have that in place to protect your son and you if necessary. Great!
No dating heavy drinkers was an absolute boundary for me. It is just so anti-AA to hang out with drunks. Part of how we stay sober is surrounding ourselves with sober people. So...I'd guess a relapse is on the way but never know. It is good you have outside parties involved. That makes detachment a bit easier.
You know it's good that he's dating and then it's not .. my stbax was very agreeable until we get to the money part .. he just doesn't want to pay at all. Especially when he's in dating mode because it's always my fault he doesn't have any money. I'm sure that is an issue that comes up. With my stbax that I noticed was that when I placed boundaries up and stuck to them they all tend to do one of three things .. they get help, they drink more, or they find another enabler. I can tell with mine when he's headed for a drink and his behavior is highly aggravated and aggressive. He's looking for a fight in a big way.
Good luck and I'm glad that you had a small victory regarding some evidence that's a good thing. :)
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Oh there is more evidence. I just informed the police instead of talking about it. I just took action. He was also livid because he got reassessed and he owes more money.
He is dating a huge drinker. I also got the impression he is dating her because he is mad about the boundaries. I sensed some passive aggressive behavior going on there.