The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
This all seems weird but my a/bf is be haveing like he or she has done nothing wrong,ha.he put all his stuff in the other bedroom and he told me earlier that we was even now,I don't know what he is talking about except that he is trying to mask his guilt ,I can't go any loger with him I'm ready for him to leave but don't know how to go about nit...hugs looking up need esh
not sure what kind of ESH you are looking for .. however when I finally came to the decision I was really done .. and it's weird because I went in stages .. I was fully done. The first time around with my first addict .. we had no children so leaving was just not an issue for me. This time around has been much more difficult because my stbax and I have children and going through a messy divorce.
Do you attend meetings, have a sponsor, working the steps?? When I have better clarity about what I want and knowing who I am vs feeling all wonky and waffling on my choices it goes much better and easier. When I finally got to be done .. I have been very done for over a year. I can't imagine going back at all.
Hugs S :)
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
Whether you want to stay or don't want to stay with your loved one....take care of YOU.
I know I had put myself in a difficult place, being a codependent and not setting healthy boundaries as much as I thought I did until I realized how much my mental health suffered.
I like the ESH above here, take care of you and the face to face meetings helped me a lot. Reading al-anon literature and finding my sponsor too. You know when you know about whether to leave or not. Sending you much love and support!
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Sending you love and support on your journey always! BreakingFree
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" Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."
"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."
In Al-Anon, we don't advise (except in the case of domestic violence) whether somebody should go or stay or how to do it. We do suggest that you attend Al-Anon meetings, find a good sponsor of the same sex, read the literature and work the steps. By doing those things, the way of it can become clear for those of us in the program and the support we need will be in place to make the transition, too.
