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This is the first time i have ever been on a sight talking about my daughter. She is 23 and i am so scared for her. She has been an addict for what seems like so long now. I feel like i am watching her slowly kill herself. She has seen so many of her friends die from their addictions. I worry everyday that i am going to get a call she is gone. She comes home every now and then. And I think maybe she is going to change. but she goes right back to that life. She has drained me in so many ways. i am the only one left in her corner. Everyone else has walked away. There are times I want to run away from it all but I can't
Welcome, Sharon. You're in the right place. I am the mother of an addict/alcoholic who is 38. I understand the fear and the concern and the worry. Al-Anon helped me learn that I can't control or cure my son or his disease and that I didn't cause the disease or my son's compulsion to use. It has also helped me learn how to focus on myself and my life and to turn my son, his disease and the consequences for his disease into his HP's hands. That doesn't mean I don't go through trying or difficult times in relationship to him and I'm grateful for Al-Anon and the membership in helping me focus on what I can change (me and my attitudes) and let go of what I can't - my son and the nature of his disease. MIP is a big help, too, and I'm grateful to my HP for it all. Please keep coming back. Others will come onto the board to welcome and support you, too.
I'm not a mother, but an ex.
My heart goes out to you but you are in the right place.
Face to Face meetings and this forum have always been supportive in situations many cannot and sometimes will not understand.
Keep coming back.
I'm the mother of a 36 year old adult Child. I have suffered so much because of his addiction that I didn't know if I was going to make it. But you know I did and with Al-anon and MIP I'm doing quite well now. I have learned to let go of my son and give him the choice to do with his life what he wishes. I want to tell you when I quit the enabling and fixing his messes he went down hill fast but with the grace of God he was arrested for a DUI and is now sitting in jail. He made that choice to drink and drive and now he will know what the consequences are for his actions. I am happy I gave his problem back to him so he can see and learn from his mistakes and maybe seek the help he needs. I can only pray he has hit his bottom and will start recovery. If not I will continue to let go and let God take over.
I love my son dearly and will never again enable him so he can continue his addiction... never again.
You are not alone Sharon so keep coming back....
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