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SpiderArcana


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Lessons in detachment - you may think you have all the answers, or can do anything, but that doesn't mean everyone else can.  

I cannot make his job better, I cannot give him self-confidence, I cannot find friends for him.  I can, however, be supportive and continue to take care of myself.  And he does tend to be better when I do.  Keep on keepin' on, everyone.



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Breakingfree


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Good lesson on self care for me, when I take better care of me, others can feel my serenity. Sending you love and support!

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Debilyn


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You are so right on!!

Hey do you have tarantulas? I did years ago, they were so cool. I loved my pink toe the best. beautiful. The white crab spiders with the pink on their hmm bum? are so cute!

hugs!



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You can fix you though, you can look within yourself and root out your own flaws and focus on your own mental health, this will improve all aspects of your life. Its a relief to know that his issues dont belong to you.x

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SunshineGirl


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It was a great relief to me when I heard in Al-anon that I am not responsible for others. A heavy weight I was able to put down.

I love the Serenity Prayer. Such a gift.

So I focus on working my program and living my best life, and let AH alone to do his own thing with the appropriate boundaries in place to protect myself.

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