The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I often find myself feeling guilty because I have unwittingly become the victim of someone elses bad behaviours, I have always put this down to myself not being strong enough or the other person being way too strong and clever, but today I think it has nothing to do with me really it's of my allowing someone else to project their weakness and failings onto me, and me grasping it with open arms and saying yes chick give that all to me I'll own it work it out and give you my conclusion!
guess what I conclude? I get insane!
Oh I wish a bell would ring or buzzer go kerrrrrrrrrrrrrrrching Watch it Katy ones coming your way ! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
I can so relate to this, Katy. Validating myself is still a lesson in progress. God, me, then others is slow growing and I'm getting better at it. I love the definition of codependent I learned and shared once on this board: You'll know you are a codependent (or a person with codependent issues) if somebody sucker punches you and you run down the street asking them what you did.
The good news is you know what you know now and you are learning a whole new way to treat yourself.
