or at least speculate is a better way to say it .. I'm just relying on my intuition and doing what is best for me at this point.  If he's really not drinking .. truly .. I feel REALLY sorry for him .. I think I would want to end it all than be stuck thinking the way he does and not be drunk.  I would be in a mental ward .. no questions asked about that one.  It's absolutely to insane and to exhausting to even contemplate thinking like he does. 

There is a reason I do not tell my STBAX ANYTHING I have planned or am trying to do as for a simple man he surely knows how to complicate things in ways that boggle my mind.  I would have to work twice as hard and think two times as fast to keep up with the mind blowing things he gets himself into.  I tell him I'm moving .. his instant response .. he's been denied unemployment.  LOL .. now this .. it's like WOW .. I'm sooo grateful I no longer have to live in my house with that level of insanity. 

I made the mistake of telling him this AM that I have a vet appointment for my old lady and that I need to pick her up early tomorrow and take her to the vet.  I found one that is a little drive .. even with the gas it will be well worth it.  Literally they are seeing her for 35$ for the shots and then I have to pay 15$ for the license.  Which kind of makes me mad it's a county thing to get more money.  Anyway, it's still cheaper than anything else I have found in the area.  I'm praying it's not to much stress for her .. she's 17 years old this year and that's why I'm keeping her .. she's lived her whole life with me.  I don't think it's fair to expect so much change out of her.  Moving is one thing a whole new family is another.  Plus I think she will be really happy here .. she can go outside and roll around in the grass.  I can't wait for her to get settled in and relax a bit.  She never got to go outside at the other house because there were outdoor cats there .. she has free reign in her own little kingdom on nice days. 

After 5pm today I get a text from him this is after very limited contact with him after letting him know I needed to pick her up in the early AM.  Stating that I needed to also get the other cat for a day .. first off what is the point of this as I have to have them both out of his place since he's dropped the bomb on me that he's moving on 5/16.  I am doing everything I can to make sure I get the cats out by that date.  He has threatened me with putting them in a shelter and so on .. that's how the original contact started out on 4/30.  I told him I could have them out by the deadline and thanks for the notice.  I didn't even mean that sarcastically .. it just is what it is .. anyway, I was fuming after his most recent text.  I couldn't believe that once again he's taking a simple situation and making it harder than it needs to be .. I couldn't figure out why .. outside of he has no brains between his ears because they have migrated to his Almond Joy apparently .. grrr.    Anyway, another story that I don't want to waste my time on that one.  Well, I wait with good reason to text him back because I don't trust myself with what I'm going to say to him.  I finally text back and just let him know I wish he had let me know earlier because I'm just not in a position to take the other cat.  Had he contacted me earlier I could have made other arrangements .. now that I'm dealing with the vets tomorrow I lack time and resources to be calling around for a place for the other cat.  I would at least need 24 hours to get her placed.  Which obviously I planned to do because I needed to .. my day tomorrow is already filled without trying to get two cats to one place, and my poor girl is going to be stressed as is .. she doesn't need the other one poking at her too. 

He sent a few whiney texts tried to rephrase what I said and use my words against me and I'm confused at this point because again, why is this a big deal?  Well .. turns out he should have never taken the cats to begin with he has not paid a pet deposit.  The management company is showing his apartment because he's breaking his lease and if they can get someone in early I think it will save him from having to pay through 6/1.  UGH .. had he told me that from the beginning I would have been more hesitant plus .. I had NO idea he was going to move so abruptly .. he had mentioned it .. he tends to exaggerate and try to do the whole one up deal,  however why would you take animals knowing that we weren't even talking about two months of keeping them?  Intention .. he meant it in the moment without thinking long term.  I don't understand and I did not get into that aspect of things.  I also realized he's at his "recovery meeting" .. which whatever .. please work on your recovery and stop texting me with crazy talk.  I REALLY like where we are living and in no way do I want to do anything to mess this up.  Taking two cats is not an option and it's not what my stbax and I even discussed. 

Finally I offer to come now and get my old lady tonight.   I'm really sorry however with the lack of notice I just am not in a position to risk my current living situation.  I will work very diligently tomorrow to figure something out .. I needed at least 24 hours notice considering what I already have to do tomorrow. 

He turned me down and explains he's with his church group which translates to his "recovery group".  I really didn't want to deal with him tonight.  At least I felt calmer doing it.  He also seems more reasonable at the moment too.   Still .. REALLY? 

What I really wanted to say was .. you are contacting me after everything has already closed, I'm at a shrink appointment with your daughter who is so not happy with you at the moment, again .. another lovely visitation gone astray .. and you put one more thing on my plate?  WOW .. what program of recovery are you in again?  LOL .. I know totally NOT appropriate .. however .. it would have been sooo easy to start that fight and I didn't .. which is a good thing.  It wouldn't have accomplished anything and while I was rattled .. I didn't let him know that .. I think I was professional and courteous.  I didn't ask him "why" questions and I stuck to the subject at hand.  Letting him know I'm doing what I can do at this point and had he contacted me earlier .. we could have worked something out.  I guess I remained as detached as possible and stuck to my boundaries.   Again .. a good thing. 

The weird thing to me was the whole .. can you take her for a day comment .. why would I take her for a day when she has to leave in 3 days anyway?  I have tried to address the issue of the cats since the 30th and he has refused to text me back.  I don't want to push at the same time .. I need some answers.  It would be different if I was texting him asking him what kind of coffee he was drinking .. lol?  He refuses to address anything that isn't what HE wants to talk about.  So now this has come up and he's the one left holding the bag and it really didn't have to be that way.  Had he been communicating with me about what was going on .. I would have gotten her out sooner than later and I did put it on the back burner because at the time it hadn't seemed urgent.  Now .. I know he wasn't being totally honest with me about what was really going on.  DUH .. like anything new?  Of course not. 

Ok .. I've blathered on enough .. I'm just working it out in my head I guess .. still it reminds me how crazy he is and that's ok because apparently I need those reminders or I wouldn't keep getting them. 

Hugs S :)