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Raven Juniper


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I'm struggling today. I heard from one of my 3 adult children who live an hour and a half away. They went out to brunch with their father and stepmother. My middle son, who texted me has always been close. My daughter has estranged herself from me since she was about 15. My oldest son had cleaned himself up several years back but apparently has relapsed. So, I haven't heard from them, but 2 out of 4 ain't bad, right? I know I can't control that situation. I'm unable to travel to see them this weekend so I have to have a good day for myself. I've been going through the motions but am just not feeling it yet. Even though my children's lives and feelings are their own, it hurts not to hear from them. So I took myself out to lunch and did a bit of retail therapy. I'm going to make my way home and light some pretty candles and pray to my HP for them and for myself. When my youngest son (who lives with me) gets out of work we will go to the movies. I know that I love them all I want to here in my heart and nobody can take that away from me. It just hurts, that's all.

 



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UGh, I think I was going to post the same title today. Guess I'll have to change it, LOL!

I'm sorry that you are struggling with your kids. I know you must miss them, despite the troubles in the past, etc. Sending you hugs and love today! I'm glad you did some retail therapy. I did that yesterday!

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Raven Juniper


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Lol! I won a race and I can't even run! ;) ((((ILD)))) you could add "The Real" to your title!

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Although I'm happy that two of your children contacted you, I can also understand the other two not being with you. There is a special place in our hearts for each of our children. Nobody else can fill them. I'm glad you are praying for them as you choose to let them be who they are right now and hold your heart and those special places in it open for grace to heal the hurt? Loved the phrase "retail therapy." Maybe your son will be happy that he doesn't have to share his Momma with anybody tonight? Happy Mother's Day, Raven.

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((((Raven))))  from the "other" family who loves you.    I can't do retail therapy...they always send a bill and I do bad reactions.   (((hugs))) smile



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It does hurt, I am sorry.  I hope your movie with your son filled in some of those empty heart spaces. (((raven)))



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I had expectations today that didn't materialize, and maybe it feels a little like what you described. I was hoping that my AH would go out to eat with me and our 7 year old today for Mother's Day. Instead, he spent the day in an alcoholic fog and didn't even say Happy Mother's Day to me. I took my son to McDonald's for lunch. Expectations = disappointment. I did enjoy lunch with my son, though.

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