Feeling my feelings and sharing them as you are doing helps me. When I'm feeling overwhelmed and ask for my HP's help, sometimes I'm shown exactly what I can do easily and drop easily. The slogans "Keep it simple," "Easy does it," "Be gentle with yourself" can also be helps for me.  Being a person who has spent years putting others first and not myself, remembering God first, me next, family and other relationships after tending to myself doesn't come naturally.  I'm making progress one day at a time with correcting the order.  I have often allowed myself to get too hungry, too angry, too lonely, too tired (too tired is the main one) and have learned that my day can start again when I catch myself doing too much for others and not enough for me.  Glad you're here.  Keep coming back. 

-- Edited by grateful2be on Sunday 11th of May 2014 06:07:18 AM

Hugs Fifi ..

Gratitude lists are invaluable for me as I heal to remind myself that even with the not so fun stuff going on there is actually a lot of positive things going on. I listen to speaker CD's as well and that helps remind me that others have been in my position and found a way out of it. When I first came into Alanon someone suggested an A-Z list .. I honestly didn't think I could find 1 thing to be grateful for .. however .. I started smaller .. 5 things when I get up and 5 things when I go to bed. Then the A-Z didn't seem big after that .. hugs S :)