My name is Deborah and I am a alcoholic/ addict in recovery. It was suggested for me to come to Alanon. Even though in recovery I really have an issue with being so obsessed with others, mostly my husband who has almost 9 years and I have 15 years. I am aware that I need to detach from my husband moves especially at the game room. I am so manic depressive that when I talk with my therapist I answered my on whats really happening and I cant keep the focus. I have to detach with my daughters because I was helping them with my 4 grandsons. I work full time and I allowed one of my daughters especially to take my weekends from me for baby sitting while she works. I just had to let her know that I have a life and my meeting attendance was slacking to once a week. my other daughter has a habit of last minute things such as babysitting. I had to tell her no. these two daughters are wonderful mothers I am striving to learn about me from my history of abuse, molestation.in my childhood. was abuse physically by an old boyfriend and my current husband have had or share before coming into the program. I am grateful that I can do online meetings and my home group has alanon twice a week. Mondays and Fridays.