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neshema2


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you all know about my having to separate from daughter #2 due to toxicity and abuse from her to me...

well i separated from her AND my baby grandson who is innocent in this.....Sat. was his birthday and I did not get an invite that I recall....I called her to say  "hey it was nice your party for Adrian and I just wanted to say that i am glad he had a wonderful b-day party" 

she said  "why didn't you come???"  I said after the way we had left things, I didn't feel it appropriate and also didn't have an invite

she said  "well why dont' we just AGREE that ANY time we have a gathering YOU are ALWAYS welcome"

I thanked her for that and said i missed my boy....she said he was at the back yard fence calling for me...

I am just going to have to trust that 

A--i am recovered enough to have at least SOME what of a relationship w/her to see my boy, yet keep my distance, not put me out there to be hurt

B--enjoy my boy and just know when its time to exit from her when things start going sour.....

I decided to just TRUST ME to be able to visit my boy and keep my hand far enough from her so she can't  bite it......

 



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Sounds like you've moved closer? Good news is you can also move backwards if necessary. Happy grandmothering!

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Sounds like a plan that works for you and your little one can get some loving from youaww



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Aloha N...thanks for the reminder on  humility...."Being teachable".  Hope you have a good time with "Your boy" and give your daughter a large hug going thru the door.   ((((Hugs)))) smile



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el-cee


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Wow, thats progress, happy for you. It is all about trusting ourselves, in my eyes, all of it.x

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HI Neshema

 Great to see you back posting once again. I love your decision and do believe that you have the recovery tools to make this work



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Sounds reasonable Neshema. You are a strong woman. Yeah...you are sensitive and mistreatment from your daughter hurts, but you have tools to make it much less to the degree that the payout of contact with your grandson is greater.

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