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Yes my son relapsed again. And he's driving. Again he puts everything on me. He is staying with a friend is possibly going to lose his job and I know I have no control of nothing. I need to completely detach. I pray and pray. But this is taking a huge toll on me .. I love him but I hate his disease!!
You know I'm grateful my son is in jail and not driving. I prayed that night he left that the police would find him before he hurt somebody. Yes I'm heartbroken where he's at but I'm grateful he's alive. I had to let go so my son couldn't but anything on me. I would not take responsibility and now he did this all by himself and I had no part in it.
This disease gets worse and worse unless they give up and surrender to it. My son didn't but the law has control now and I can pray and have hope it will give him some clarity and surrender. At least he will have a few years to think about it and dry out completely.
Prayers are with you Gaby and I pray your son will be safe.
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
What is to put on you? He's grown. Even addicts usually stop blaming mommy...though not always. Sorry to hear this Gaby. You sound calmer and more equipped now though.
I am sorry that this happened again. Through no influence from you, your son has made choices that are unhealthy and dangerous. Please in no way blame yourself.
It is sad and no matter what their actions make us cry and moan over and over again. I am sorry Gaby, and know that we are with you in solidarity and in our prayers .... og
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Don't Worry About Growing Old, It Is A Privilege For Some Of Us.....
Yes my son relapsed again. And he's driving. Again he puts everything on me.
He can't put anything on you that you dont allow....I suggest meetings...sponsor work for YOU and the steps....this is not a program where we are ever done with it....to prosper, it takes constant and diligent, repetitive work on ourselves.....I am not here much, but i work my program in some way EACH DAY and i usually do it w/a trusted recovery partner or sponsor
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Live and let live and do it with peace and goodwill to all!!!!
With you on this Gaby...we can do it together because it works when we work it. Eldest son has gone back out and with the exception of HP which he has no control over pretty much destroyed his family relationships altogether. Yes this is what the disease does....are we responsible...no. We have other better things to do than focus on what we have not caused, cannot control and will not cure. ((((hugs)))) stepping.
