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I have been checking in here, but mostly working on steps and doing on-line meetings and feeling better about MY recovery everyday! Got this from a friend and thought it was a joke but a lesson too, thought I would share:
11 PEOPLE ON A ROPE Eleven people were hanging on a rope under a helicopter, 10 men and 1 woman.
The rope was not strong enough to carry them all so they decided that one had to let go,otherwise they were all going to fall. They weren't able to choose that person, until the woman gave a very touching speech. She said that she would voluntarily let go of the rope, because, as a woman, she was used to giving up everything for her husband and kids or for men in general, and was used to always making sacrifices with little in return.
As soon as she finished her speech, all the men started clapping . . .
No offense meant to our MIP guys... you could interchange the man/women and the message is the same. Made me think about ways that I used to be such a martyr and manipulator to get what I wanted and things that I thought that I needed But I guess the lesson in this is for me is, that push come to shove, it is about saving ourselves. I am working hard on looking at myself and my part in all of this mess so that I can come to forgiveness toward myself and my A. One Day at a time, progress not perfection, Gods will not mine I trudge on...keep thinking I should be further along and then I remember it took me 50 years to get here "give me a break ...geez". Hope you all enjoy your day, and I will check back
MorningGlory
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LOL I love it! That's one clever woman and wonderful motivational speaker! Thanks for sharing the joke. It's nice to start begin my day with an innocent joke.
I relate to your feelings of not being as far along as you'd like to be. That was part of my share at my homegroup meeting. I'm trying to shed those feelings of shame and terminal uniqueness I can sometimes feel concerning that.
Sometimes I can compare and despair and forget that the rest of the world isn't perfect lives, doesn't have perfect families, perfect happiness or perfect health and of course they've never made any mistakes in their life. Of course this is skewed thinking on my part. People's appearances can be deceiving. It's easy to look good on the outside but no one but that person and their hp knows if there is turmoil on the inside.
I think the nice thing about Alanon recovery is that if we keep working our program we have a chance to watch our insides flower and then our outsides begin to catch up if we're patient. We're already enough in our hp's eyes so why not in our own? I know that I need to keep hp close everyday or I begin to lose sight of my progress even after years in Alanon. I may be able to coast for awhile but then when crisis hits and my spiritual program is weak, I become fearful and insecure about my ability to take care of things, myself and my trust in my hp's ability to take care of me waivers too.
It's good to see you again. Thank you for sharing the funny story and your es&h. TT
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Great to see you Morning Glory, I've missed that lovely flower of yours!
Thank you for the chuckle - like you my laugh is tinged with recognition, what a powerful HP that dangling lady had watching her back, so amazing to think about what happens when we give up our expectations!
el-cee..!! Hey..!! and then I also got the picture and laughed and told my spouse and she laughed to and then I wondered "How would I have clapped and held on to the rope at the same time"? Hmmmmm
But I guess the lesson in this is for me is, that push come to shove, it is about saving ourselves. I am working hard on looking at myself and my part in all of this mess so that I can come to forgiveness toward myself and my A. One Day at a time, progress not perfection, Gods will not mine I trudge on...keep thinking I should be further along and then I remember it took me 50 years to get here "give me a break ...geez". Hope you all enjoy your day, and I will check back
Thanks for sharing the joke. It's nice to start begin my day with an innocent joke.